Your Ex Wants Sex...Is A Booty Call Ever Ok?

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Your Ex Wants Sex...Is A Booty Call Ever Ok?
The temptation to hook up can do you in. Is sex with an ex ever a good idea? 3 Ways To Know for Sure

"I am going to be in town for a couple of days and I would love to see you." the familiar voice said hopefully.

Instantly I am flooded with emotions both good and bad. We had been broken up for a few months and I had been trying to evict him from my mind ever since.

 

Unbidden, thoughts about him and how hot the sex was, how beautiful I felt when I was with him, how romantic it was to sip wine at sunset, had been running through my mind for weeks. My brief fling with him had been the most fun I'd had in years!

Now here he was, breezing back into my life and inviting me to reconnect. I knew my friends would be shocked that I was even considering it, so I didn't telling anyone he called. There were so many parts of our time together that were very good. Why did we break up anyway?

Does this ring a bell? This exact scenario happened for me several years ago and I chose to say no. It was an excruciating choice because the chemistry was ridiculous. (I would love to know why the wrong men can have such exciting chemistry...just not fair!) This is how it played out.

Gorgeous, exciting ex-flame is visiting my tiny apartment. Candles were lit, jazz was playing and he was doing his best to coax me into bed. "It is important to live in the moment," he said to me, "Do what feels good now."

My new interest in The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle not withstanding, somehow I knew he was pushing his agenda over my lackluster objections.

I was so tempted. He had asked me for a back massage which, of course, I agreed. I loved touching him and what harm could it do? Ha! As I rubbed the oil on his back, he kept gently encouraging me to respond to my natural arousal and seal the deal. What a pickle!

Somehow, in the middle of this highly charged situation, I said to myself first and then to him, "Wait a minute. Just hold up here. I want to think about what is right for me."

I went across the room, sat in a chair, closed my eyes and pleaded with my Inner Wisdom, "Please help me know what to do. I want this man but the red flags are waving madly! What should I do?"

I was hoping I would get a clear YES (dreamer!) or a clear no but what I got was the most amazing and calming answer.

"Whichever choice you make will be fine. You are going to be fine, no matter what."

I laughed outloud and told him what I heard. He laughed too. I am sure he was hoping my Inner Guidance said yes, but he was absolutely wonderful when I told him I decided no. He had made it clear to me that he was not interested in a relationship with me and as much as I wished I could change his mind,

I had to face the truth. Sex would be fun with him but I knew myself too well. I liked him more than that and a booty call would send me into weeks of obsession! Bottom line, I want to be loved more than anything. Love has to be primary.

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Catherine Behan

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