Just because you are separated, it doesn't mean that you are "off limits" to the single scene. But before you enter into the world of dating, you need to be sure that you have covered the basics in your break-up before thinking of starting something new. Here's a list of 5 key things you MUST do, to ensure your next relationship is hassle free and a potential success!
Step #1: Secure your own separate residence from your ex-spouse.
There are already a number of obstacles to overcome in new relationships, and following a separation; many couples choose to live under the same roof due to finances or other reasons such as children. This is a HUGE road block and considered a RED FLAG to someone out there interested, and ready to develop a long-term relationship with someone special. Living under the same roof as your ex-wife or ex-husband is a hard pill to swallow for someone new in your life, particularly when you have to assume you're NOT the only fish in the sea of selection.
Getting over the pain and hurt of a break up for many is a challenging and difficult task. It is not the time to be exploring a new relationship when all of your focus and energies are on your own hurt feelings and pre-occupations. Before you get started, you need to get over it. There is always a certain amount of time we need to repair and recover from the damage of a failed relationship. We have to feel good about where we are and the emotional space we're in, before we consider dating someone after separation.
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