A Guy’s Guide To Thrilling Your Woman

By

A Guy’s Guide To Thrilling Your Woman
Tips I've learned from living with a pro.
Tips I've learned from living with a pro.

Okay, I admit it. That teaser was a bit misleading.

I don’t live with that kind of pro. I’m the life partner of an award-winning sex teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Still, a pro’s a pro when it comes to expertise about sex. During the more than five years I’ve been with Sheri, I’ve learned an enormous amount from her and the women at her workshops about what makes a good—and not-so-good—lover.

Here are five keys I’ve come away with.

Okay, I admit it. That teaser was a bit misleading.

I don’t live with that kind of pro. I’m the life partner of an award-winning sex teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Still, a pro’s a pro when it comes to expertise about sex. During the more than five years I’ve been with Sheri, I’ve learned an enormous amount from her and the women at her workshops about what makes a good—and not-so-good—lover.

Here are five keys I’ve come away with.

Women Are Different—Really Different! Men tend to think of women as just like guys, only with different (and more fun) plumbing. It’s not so, in fact it’s so not so! Female sexual energy typically proceeds from the outside in. With men, it’s the exact opposite. It takes about a nano-second for their sex center to go into the “on” position, while it’s totally normal for women to take 45 minutes or more to get fully and deeply aroused. That’s a whole lot of time, especially when you’re in Hot-to-Trot Mode. Think of it this way: 45 minutes is like a quarter of a football game, including the commercials.

It’s All About the Journey—Really! So how are you going to spend those 45 minutes, assuming the Cowboys aren’t on TV? Here’s my recommendation: enjoy the journey … for real. Don’t pretend to enjoy it because you think faking it will get you to the Promised Land that much quicker. Women know when you’re angling for something: it’ll make them close up. Make your agenda pleasure, not penetration. Focus on delighting her sensually, which is different from arousing her sexually. The more you slow down, the faster you’ll get there.

Keep reading...

More Juicy Content From YourTango:

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Carl Frankel

Author

Carl Frankel is a writer specializing in sex and relationships. He is also a relationship coach and the managing director of Sheri Winston's Center for the Intimate Arts.

He is the author of Love and the More Perfect Union: Six Keys to Relationship Bliss. He is also a listed author on the forthcoming Succulent Sexcraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice, by Sheri Winston with Carl Frankel. This is the highly-awaited sequel to Sheri's Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secrets Maps to Buried Pleasure, which won the 2010 AASECT Book of the Year Award (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists).

Do you want $800 in great gifts (as in, FREE gifts) from wonderful sex and relationship teachers? It's easy! Click here for more info. But you'll have to check this out by September 16th to qualify!

 

Location: Kingston, NY
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Carl Frankel:

Understanding Your Inner Music Is The Key To Relationships

By

Relationships are challenging. Hell, even good relationships are challenging. It's one of those semi-unfathomable mysteries — why is love so hard? There's actually an answer to this question. Love is hard because it's what the script calls for. Say what? What script? Great question. My answer will take you through the wee ... Read more

Why Believing In Soul Mates Is Keeping You Single & Unhappy

By

So you think you've finally found that perfect person you've been waiting for? You fit together so well and in so many ways. He or she is your soul mate. It's an ancient dream, this longing to end the abyss that separates one person from another. Over two thousand years ago, Plato proposed that man and woman were once one. They were split ... Read more

The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship

By

Back in the 1970s—and I know I’m dating myself—a Yale law professor named Erich Segal penned a bestselling tearjerker called Love Story. His definition of love: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Straight out of the Woodstock era and ethos, it sounded good at the time. Freedom! No guilt! Just be yourself! ... Read more

See More

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB