A Guy’s Guide To Thrilling Your Woman

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A Guy’s Guide To Thrilling Your Woman
Tips I've learned from living with a pro.
Tips I've learned from living with a pro.

Okay, I admit it. That teaser was a bit misleading.

I don’t live with that kind of pro. I’m the life partner of an award-winning sex teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Still, a pro’s a pro when it comes to expertise about sex. During the more than five years I’ve been with Sheri, I’ve learned an enormous amount from her and the women at her workshops about what makes a good—and not-so-good—lover.

Here are five keys I’ve come away with.

Okay, I admit it. That teaser was a bit misleading.

I don’t live with that kind of pro. I’m the life partner of an award-winning sex teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Still, a pro’s a pro when it comes to expertise about sex. During the more than five years I’ve been with Sheri, I’ve learned an enormous amount from her and the women at her workshops about what makes a good—and not-so-good—lover.

Here are five keys I’ve come away with.

Women Are Different—Really Different! Men tend to think of women as just like guys, only with different (and more fun) plumbing. It’s not so, in fact it’s so not so! Female sexual energy typically proceeds from the outside in. With men, it’s the exact opposite. It takes about a nano-second for their sex center to go into the “on” position, while it’s totally normal for women to take 45 minutes or more to get fully and deeply aroused. That’s a whole lot of time, especially when you’re in Hot-to-Trot Mode. Think of it this way: 45 minutes is like a quarter of a football game, including the commercials.

It’s All About the Journey—Really! So how are you going to spend those 45 minutes, assuming the Cowboys aren’t on TV? Here’s my recommendation: enjoy the journey … for real. Don’t pretend to enjoy it because you think faking it will get you to the Promised Land that much quicker. Women know when you’re angling for something: it’ll make them close up. Make your agenda pleasure, not penetration. Focus on delighting her sensually, which is different from arousing her sexually. The more you slow down, the faster you’ll get there.

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Carl Frankel is a writer specializing in sex and relationships. He is also a relationship coach and the managing director of Sheri Winston's Center for the Intimate Arts.

He is the author of Love and the More Perfect Union: Six Keys to Relationship Bliss. He is also a listed author of Succulent Sexcraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice, by Sheri Winston with Carl Frankel. This is the highly-awaited sequel to Sheri's Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secrets Maps to Buried Pleasure, which won the 2010 AASECT Book of the Year Award (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists).

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