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10 Steps to Venus Butterfly Technique

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10 Steps to Venus Butterfly Technique

1. Kiss your lover passionately as you caress her entire body to get her juices flowing.
2. Give her oral sex (which is called "Honoring" in Tantra) slowly tease
her between her thighs as you make your way towards her Yoni/Vagina with your tongue.
3. Pull back your lover's Pearl/Clitoral hood
4. Stimulate her Pearl/Clitoris with short and long strokes using your tongue, fingers or vibrator until the woman reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the point of no return; orgasm.
5. Move away from the Pearl/Clitoris and stimulate the entire outside of her Yoni/Vagina in circular motions with your tongue, finger or vibrator, allowing her arousal level to lower by a couple of points.
6. Return to Pearl stimulation as above using short and long strokes until the woman reaches a 9 on the pleasure scale.
7. Ask her if she is ready for you to slip one or two finger/s, palm up, inside her Yoni/Vagina and then tap on her G-spot towards the navel.
8. Meanwhile, continue to stimulate her Pearl/Clitoris with your tongue, while tapping her G-spot with your finger/s or you can use a G-spot vibrator.
9. If all goes well, she will have a mind-blowing, body-melting internal and external orgasm simultaneously resulting in multiple orgasms known as the Venus Butterfly.
10. Ask her for verbal feedback as you cup one of your hands over her Yoni gently to hold the sexual energy within.

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Venus Butterfly Technique takes lots of concentration, coordination, and communication.

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