What turns you on is much different than what turns a woman on. You are visual. You see an attractive woman, and you notice her body, the color of her skin, her gorgeous hair, the shape of her breasts, her buttocks, legs and her own body language. You start to have sexual thoughts about this woman and are completely aroused. If she smiles at you and gives you eye contact, then the arousal increases due to the levels of testosterone you produce as a man. I know you won’t admit this to most women, but I do know that your “thing” has a mind of it’s own.
For a woman, her heart and feelings are the center of her universe. Current studies show that women have a larger and deep limbic region of the brain, which is in charge of feelings and connection to others. The way to turn on a woman is through her heart and emotions as opposed to visual stimulation.
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To turn a woman on, you must learn her language. A woman’s language is through “connection”. By learning and understanding her language, then you can truly gain her trust. When a woman trusts you this means she feels protected by you and can surrender to you. When she can surrender and trust you, then she can open up to you in more ways than one. Hint, hint! Yes, this can lead to ecstatic orgasms and love making for her. You will be a stallion in the bedroom. Sounds hot, right?
Here are top 3 ways to turn a modern woman on:
Connect to your woman: Remember a woman’s largest sex organ is her heart! She wants to “connect” with you. When talking be present with her. Look at her in the eyes. Touch her hair. Listen to her. Pay attention to what she is talking about. The more you “connect” with her, the more she will gain your trust. Remember, trust and feeling safe are some of the best foreplay a woman can receive.
Notice her beauty: Although a high quality woman loves herself and treats her own body like a temple, she also enjoys receiving compliments. Tell her how beautiful she is. Share how amazing she is. Let her know how important she is to you. Don’t just say it, but mean it! Notice how she glows after you compliment her.
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Don’t rush into love making: It takes most women between 15-20 minutes to orgasm. Connect to her. Make her feel safe. Notice her beauty. See her entire body as an erogenous zone because it is. Kiss her entire body, and don’t go straight for her vagina. This will prepare her body for you. When you connect to her heart, she will open up like a flower to YOU! Make sure she receives her orgasm before yours. When she does, she will be coming back for more and more and more.
If you start to use these three tools, then you will be a KEEPER to a high quality and modern woman. You will stand out from other men, so she chooses YOU!