Mean people do their best to make you doubt yourself. Here's how you can always get the upper hand.
OK. Let's be honest. Everyone of us knows a jerk. You never know what's going on through their minds. Yesterday he/she gave me a hug, and today, I get the other cheek? What the heck?
This inconsistency is infuriating. Sometimes we're too annoyed to even do our research about why they are the way they are. The truth is, it doesn't matter. They are the way they are and are not gonna change.
In fact, if you were to approach them and say "Hey, you said this and it hurt my feelings." This just feeds their jerkiness, and if they did offer an apology, they would still be grinning on the inside because destroying your confidence is what they do. They dedicate their lives to being jerks. (Note: These individuals tend to be excellent business people and successful.)
This person will expose you and make you feel like you are running around naked and your clothes are no where to be found. But believe it or not, this is an opportunity, albeit an unconventional one, for personal growth. Yes, growth.
What type of growth are we talking about? Only you know that. If you've read more than one of my articles you might notice that I don't usually give away the answers to your problems. I cannot resolve them for you. We live in a world where we think we need to work from the outside in, but, actually, it's the other way around. You must look deep within yourself and work your way out.
The jerk in your life is projecting onto you emotions he/she can no longer supress. So don't take anything personally. Every time someone tells you something that makes you wonder why they said what they said, odds are, they are projecting.
So go out there, meet some jerks, and whatever they say, smile and store that information in your hard drive. Think about what these words made you feel and why you think you feel this way. Can you identify with the jerk? It doesn't really matter why they said it, what you wanna do here is channel this information to benefit you. Make it about you but in a positive way.
If you are looking for something, jerks help you find what you need and what you don't, what you want to be and what you don't. Use the lemons they are giving you to make your own sweet lemonade!
Try this and let me know what works and what doesn't. After all, life is a game. We're the players. What's your next move?