Confession: I have been a womanizer for a long time, so I know something about womanizers in general. With that in mind, here are my best pieces of advice for single women about identifying and interacting with men like me:
1. There's a difference between players and cheaters. There are two types of womanizers, players and cheaters. One should be respected and the other should remain despised. There is an old saying, "Don't hate the player; hate the game." There is a lot of lighthearted validity to that adage.
I distinguish players from cheaters because players have multiple female sex partners and they are upfront and honest with women about their desire to be sexually satisfied by more than one woman. This type of womanizer does not try to hide, deny or camouflage the fact that monogamy is just not his thing. Always appreciate men who are honest with women about their promiscuous desires.
Cheaters interact sexually with multiple women under false pretenses. They present a facade of wanting to be involved in a long-term, monogamous relationship with one woman, but deep-down they want variety in their sex lives. I have no respect for liars, manipulative game players, adulterers and cheaters. I simply do not like the idea of toying with someone's emotions.
2. Most men are only as faithful as their options allow. While I would not say that this assertion is 100 percent valid, it is valid more often than not. With that, I have three points to make. First, if you are a woman and you think a man is handsome, sexy, charming and worth dating, there is a 90 to 99 percent chance that dozens, if not hundreds of other women feel the exact same way about him. Women will literally compete with one another to secure this man's companionship.
Second, if a man develops a reputation for being very exciting and satisfying in bed with women, there is a 90 to 99 percent chance that his "stock" is going to rise in the eyes of many women. No woman wants a man who is a "dud" in bed. Third, it is very easy for a man to be faithful to one woman when he only has one woman offering him regular sexual companionship. But when a man has five, ten, fifteen or twenty-plus women offering him sexual companionship, it is much harder for a man to remain motivated to have sex with just one woman. Keep reading ...
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