I met a man not too long ago who told me something interesting about his two young adult daughters. One daughter rarely complains about men — even when she was in high school. This daughter is now engaged to be married. His other daughter, however, is just the opposite. She complains about the men she dates as being "liars", "jerks" and "dogs" on a monthly, if not weekly, basis.
Why such a difference between two women who grew up in the same household?
Before this gentleman shared his detailed thoughts with me, I already had my own prediction of what his explanation would be. One daughter operated in the reality of men, while the other daughter had delusional fantasies of how men should be. But here's the reality: men are not the "natural liars." Rather, women lie to themselves. The number one reason why men frequently and repeatedly lie to women is to help these women maintain their delusional fantasies of the "ideal man."
Here is what I would categorize as the top ten most frequently repeated lies that men tell to women.
1. "I don't know why my boss all of the sudden required that I work on Friday nights and Saturdays ... but I have to. I promise it won't last too long." You have been in a relationship with a guy for a year or two, and most of the time, his work schedule is predictable. Then, all of the sudden, his work schedule becomes "unpredictable." Does his job really require him to work late at night on Thursdays and Fridays or early on Saturdays? There is at least of 50 percent chance that this man is cheating on you. You can choose to believe he is a "hard worker" all you want, but the reality is, the only thing he is working hard at is pleasing his "other" woman in bed.
2. "Why do I have two cell phones? Well, one is for friends and one is for family, close friends, and business." Some men genuinely do have a personal mobile phone and a work mobile phone. I've had that myself a few times before. That being said, one of the things I always hear lying womanizers brag about is how they will maintain two — even sometimes three — mobile phones so that their "main woman" won't find out about their "on-the-side" women. For one phone, he will allow you to check his phone records and text messages. For the other phone? No way. Keep reading ...
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