5 Reasons To Lose The Guilt And Pamper YOURSELF For A Change


All women need time for themselves. Stop feeling guilty about pampering yourself with these tips.

You need a massage, facial and regular mani-pedis. You need a luxuriously long bubble bath, exercise, time with your buddies, and you need to work on your hobbies. But, then you start thinking of everything else you should be doing because it's "more important." Your man, mother, job, bestie, and kid all need you.

I can spend the rest of this article breaking down how to balance and tackle it all, but we all know what the real issue is here: woman's guilt. Even when we're not neglecting those who need us, we tend to feel (at minimum) a tinge of guilt when doing things for ourselves. 

Yes, it's society’s fault. Since we're not going to change society's influence in a day, let's figure out how to deal with the reality of the situation. Happiness and health make you better at everything you do.

Being well-rested, well-pampered and actively involved with your passions will change your life and how you navigate the world. Happy people have happy kids, and make better friends, workers and lovers. Here's why:

  1. You'll start to give quality, not quantity. When you start to focus on making sure you're happy, you become more inspired. You're in a positive state of mind and can help others get there as well. When you give to others, you're giving you at your best.
  2. You'll learn to follow Your gut. You can offer insightful help from a place of clear judgment. Following your instincts becomes natural, allowing you to distinguish between enabling and providing productive support.
  3. You won't be offended as easily. When you feel good about yourself, you don't feel the need to control what others think about you. You're happy, and therefore comfortable with where you are and who you are. You know that you deserve to be treated well because you treat yourself with care. You're not looking for approval from elsewhere, nor do you have anything to prove to anyone. Drama plays a much smaller part in your life.
  4. You be more productive. When you're more balanced, and you have a clearer mind because you're less distracted by the fears and insecurities brought upon by the resentment of not being taken care of or appreciated. You are inspired, and you finally figure out how to get the most out of those 24 hours you're given each day.
  5. YOU DESERVE IT. Your loved ones deserve it; your family and friends deserve for you to be happy. Your people want you to be happy. Even when you're ticking off your to-do list without a hitch, if you're doing it while stressed out and exhausted, everyone else around you will be miserable, too. It's a fact.

I have personally poured my heart and soul into taking care of everyone else but me. I felt frumpy, unappreciated, and like I was always playing catch-up with life. It sucked. The feeling of neglect is horrible, especially when we do it to ourselves; it comes from a place deep inside that says we're not worthy of any better.

So, the moral of the story is, you have more power than you think. Only you can control your universe. What is there to feel guilty about? "Guilty" pleasures don't exist in the world of a woman who gets it. Make everyone around you happy today. How about you start with a good old fashioned bubble bath and a glass of wine?

Aisha Amore is a coach and creator of Sexy Beast Project. Contact her for information about how to feel sexy, confident and powerful. You are welcome to sign up for free daily affirmations of sexiness here, because what woman wouldn't want fun, motivational blurbs of goodness reminding her everyday?


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