The Real Reason Your Husband Will Cheat On You

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Infidelity: The Real Reason Your Husband Will Cheat On You
Hint: It has nothing to do with your age or appearance.

Your husband is bored with you and that's why he cheated. Don't shoot the messenger, I'm just telling it as I hear it. I'm a psychotherapist which makes me, if nothing else, an expert listener. And that's what I'm hearing, time and again, from my middle-aged, long-married male clients who come to me disillusioned and unhappy with their wives. To clarify, this isn't an article about how middle-aged men don't appreciate all you do for your family. And it's certainly not about bashing your choices or the things that make you happy. (To be clear, I'm a sister-friend to the end.)

Your husband isn't bored because you're the only woman he's had sex with for years. Or because you putter around the house in those dingy, flannel pajama pants every day. Nope. It's because you haven't grown up.

 

In his humble opinion, you're still the young woman he married — and not in a good way. You just haven't, well, evolved. You're not exciting. You're not interesting. And, more than that, you simply don’t act like an adult.

I don't mean to imply that you wear your hair in braids (OK, maybe you do in a cool, sexy way) and play jump rope in the schoolyard. Or that you don’t know how to tie your own shoes or make a cup of coffee. Of course you do. But emotionally, there’s just something lacking. Keep reading...

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Abby Rodman

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Abby Rodman is a psychotherapist, relationship expert, author and speaker, renowned for her focus on midlife dating, marriage and divorce. She has appeared on the Today Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda, HuffPost Live, and is regularly sought out by print, broadcast and online media outlets for her expertise on relationship issues.  Abby is a regular blogger on the Huffington Post, better-after-50.com and YourTango. Her work has also appeared in the Boston Globe Magazine. Her book, "Should You Marry Him?" is a must-read for both women and men at any stage of life who are considering tying the knot. Abby's new book, "Without This Ring: A Woman's Guide To Successfully Living Through and Beyond Midlife Divorce" is available now.

Location: Newton, MA
Credentials: LICSW, MSW, Other
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