A Remedy For A Broken Heart—Is There Really Such a Thing?

Love, Heartbreak

There is no magic cure, but these three steps will help you heal, so you can move on with your life.

A broken heart is one of the most painful feelings a person will experience. The sadness that accompanies a break up or divorce is incredibly intense. The more love that you felt for your ex-partner, the more your heart will suffer. Is there a broken heart remedy? 

Unfortunately, there is no instant cure or remedy for a broken heart. However, that doesn't mean that you are destined to feel that agonizing hurt for the rest of your life. Although you will feel alone, sad, and depressed for a while, there are some steps that you can take to help overcome your sadness.

Recovery from a broken heart will take time but these steps will help you to deal with the hurt that you are feeling, and speed up the recovery process. While they are not an instant remedy for your poor, crushed heart, they will help you get through this difficult period.

1. Take control of your emotions.

It is easy to lose control of your emotions when you are in such a desperately sad state following a relationship break up or divorce. You will feel such a big range of emotions including intense sadness, incredible anger, and rejection. You will sometimes feel angry at yourself and sometimes feel anger toward your ex. If you can't take control of your emotions then you will find it difficult to move on.

A roller coaster of emotions is perfectly normal after a break up or divorce, and there is nothing wrong with experiencing such a wide range of different emotions, just as long as those emotions don't take over your life.  If you are feeling sad then let the emotions out, have a good cry and then move on. 

If you are feeling angry then let those emotions out too, go punch a punching bag or go to a secluded, private place where you can scream your lungs out and then move on.  If you continue to let your emotions bring you down and you find yourself unable to get past them, then you might find yourself falling in a depression which can be very difficult to climb back out of.

2. Accept that the relationship is over.

Everything in life happens for a reason and if you can look at your break up with this attitude then you are one step closer to mending your broken heart. Even though you may have felt, and probably still continue to feel that your ex partner is "the one" for you, the reality is that he or she is not. Otherwise the both of you might still be together, living happily every after. 

Perhaps this relationship was never destined to work. If this person isn't "the one," then as long as you are still with this person, even in spirit, it will prevent you from becoming emotionally available to allow Mr. or Ms. Right to enter into your life. Maybe this break up or divorce happened for a reason so that you could change paths in your life journey and find the person that you really are meant to be with.

You will eventually find happiness again, and as soon as you accept that this relationship is over the sooner you can open yourself up to experiencing happiness.

3. Move On With Your Life

Sometimes you just need to let go and move on. The ending of this relationship is exactly that, an end of one relationship. Your breakup or divorce does not at all mean that life as we all know it will cease to exist, even though it might feel that way. It's just the end of one particular chapter in your life journey. When it is obvious that this relationship wasn't meant to be, then you can let go and move on with your life. 

Although breaking up from a relationship, or going through a divorce is incredibly sad and painful, try to remember as best you can that you have your whole life ahead of you, and many more fantastic experiences await. There is no magic cure to heal a broken heart, but if you consider these three steps and try to follow them, you can begin to recover from the heartache and move on with your life. 

Learn from the experiences you shared with this person and become stronger as a result.  It's time to move on and enjoy the rest of your life.


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