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Robyn Wahlgast, Dating Coach

Robyn Wahlgast - Dating Coach, Life Coach, Relationship Coach, YourTango Expert Partner - Topeka, KS

Dating Coach

Contact Information

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Call Me 7856084566
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I Believe

"Guys like a Rules Girl, they just don't want it to be because she read a book." — Oprah Winfrey 

About Me

“Robyn is a great dating coach and a great thinker. She brings a new perspective to dating, relationships, and The Rules.”
—Ellen Fein, co-author, The Rules

Hi, I'm Robyn of New Direction Dating. I am a Certified Dating and Relationship Coach, and have been coaching women for 10+ years. My clients are smart women who are looking for a lasting relationship that leads to commitment and marriage—a marriage built upon a solid foundation of trust and love.

I loving working with women of all ages, and many of my referrals are intergenerational—moms, daughters, even grandmothers and granddaughters!  

Contact me when you are ready to...

  • Learn how to attract lasting love into your life, at any age.
  • Confidently sail through each relationship stage—from first date through engagement and marriage.
  • Reveal your most relaxed, confident, sexy self.

Here are some examples of situations where you might need my help: 

  • You are single and need help finding and attracting high-quality men. You are ready for a long-term, committed relationship.
  • You are recovering from a break-up or divorce and don't know where to start.
  • He broke up with you and you don't know why. You are having difficulty moving on, and need some answers.
  • He didn't call or text and you don't know why he disappeared. Could you have enjoyed a different outcome?
  • You want to turn a friend into a boyfriend and are wondering if he feels the same way. Should you tell him how you feel?
  • You are a single mom and need advice that is tailored for you.
  • You are in a relationship but he is pulling away or behaving differently and you want to know if your relationship can be saved. (Is he cheating on you? Did you do something to drive him away?)
  • You want to know if he will propose. You need to know if you're wasting time with a man who doesn't see you as his wife. Or you want to know if there's something you can do to make him propose faster.
  • He says he is confused about his feelings for you. He says he loves you but he's scared of commitment. He sends mixed signals and runs hot and cold. Find out if you're in a romantic entanglement, rather than a grown-up relationship that will lead toward commitment.
  • You are afraid you are settling or wasting time with a man who can't give you what you want. Even so, you fear that if you leave him you will never find a new man who is as compatible.

I look forward to hearing your story!   

Warmest regards,
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The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

Aren't Rules made to be broken?

"I've spent almost 20 years studying Dating and Relationship Rules.
You really can use 'The Rules' in a way that is authentic and emotionally nourishing."
~ Robyn

Why do smart women need dating and relationship rules? Because we over-think relationships and men. That “washing machine” of worry in your head can finally quiet down when you know exactly which rules work for you and reveal the best version of yourself in relationships and in life.

Why do men marry Rules Girls? Because we relate to men in a way they truly desire. And because following the right rules ensures that men respect you from the very first hello.

Aren’t rules made to be broken? Not if they reflect your authentic self — that beautiful, fiery essence inside every woman — and allow you to be relaxed, confident, and sexy with men.

How do rules promote healthy relationships? A woman in love can easily get caught up in details — Would he like me better as a blonde? How can I give him unforgettable sex? — and lose sight of the big picture: He is disrespectful toward me; He doesn’t truly love me. Magazines and dating experts are constantly telling us to “maintain healthy boundaries” with men. But what does that actually look like? Are there boundaries that you should be enforcing that you’re not even aware of? And are you walking the talk, or do men see right away that you don’t really expect them to treat you like the unique and precious being that you are.

Want to learn more? Visit my NEW DIRECTION DATING website.

Hi, I'm Robyn. I am 50 years old, happily married, with 3 wonderful children. I'm also a late-bloomer. All the questions above are ones that I struggled with personally when I was single. After many years spent in a corporate career, I looked around and realized that if I didn't make a major change in my life, I would never have the one thing I truly desired: a wonderful husband and a family of my own.

I spent years re-learning how to date and relate to men. I discovered that I had been going about it all wrong, and that if I just made some small adjustments to my own approach and attitude, I could get the results I wanted. I am so excited to be able to share this knowledge with other women, so that they, too, can enjoy a satisfying love life.

If you are a woman between the ages of 25 through 65+ I can help you date for marriage and lasting love. Aside from caring for my family, nothing gives me greater pleasure than helping my clients find the love they deserve.

I look forward to hearing your story!

With warmest wishes,

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Success Stories

Dating After Divorce Success

"When my husband left me two years ago I was completely shellshocked. I had absolutely no idea how to date. I made every mistake you can make in that first year. I was desperately lonely, insecure, and eager to please. I scared away every normal man in my orbit, and attracted a fair number of gold diggers.  THANK YOU for lifting me out of that rut and setting me on the right path. I like how you redid my eHarmony and profiles. I am attracting much higher quality men, and I no longer feel desperate or nervous.  Things are even better with my ex! His head games don’t bother me, and I can tell he has more respect for the "new me" that he can’t manipulate. Thank you!!!"

—Carla in Hilton Head, SC (age 62)

[Update: Carla is currently engaged and their destination wedding is planned for January 2015.]

Online Dating Success

“When I first wrote to you I'd given up on online dating—I wasn't meeting decent guys. My current guy and I have been dating for 4 months. He has said he loves me, and he brings up marriage all the time. I am letting him lead, and because I’m not insecure and pestering him all the time about “how does he feel” or “where is this going”, etc., I know he is really happy, too.”     

—Ashley in West Hollywood, CA (age 38)

A Recent Newlywed Checks In...

“I’ve been out of touch but I wanted to write and tell you that we got married six months ago!! Thank you for helping me through it all. I never would have made it without your advice.”

—Véronique in Sarasota, FL (age 35)

Time in Practice10 years +
I practice inMultiple states/provinces, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseLife Coach
Relationship Coach
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
By Email
Via Skype
Via a webcam
Other, please inquire
I am fluent inEnglish
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