People get in their own way with relationships when they put their relationship life in a box.
I’ve worked with many individuals over the years – students and clients alike – and one place I see people getting in their own way with relationships is when they put their relationships and dating life in a box.
When you cling to a vision of what a relationship should look like, you become attached and set yourself up for disappointment whenever the other person doesn’t match the picture you created.
Let me give you an example of a couple I worked with, Rhonda & Warren (not their real names)…
Despite the Hearts, Hugs and Kisses…Here's why Celebrating Valentine's Day Might Be a Bad Thing...
So, you’ve picked out the perfect 12 red roses, and scheduled their delivery; dinner reservations are set for 8 o’clock. In the midst of picking out the perfect card for your significant other, you begin to consider everything that you’ve been through together, and there’s no card that really fits your current situation. These days, the happiness you once felt, is peppered with confusion and concerns for your collective future. But, that’s okay.
Look for patterns in your relationship to determine if he's a keeper.
Today is the perfect day to do a romantic life check-up, where you take account of what you have~and compare it to what you want. If it's off at all, this is a good time to assess if you are in the right relationship or not.
One clue to knowing if you are with the wrong man, is to notice the patterns of your relationship.
The desire to be "normal" is understandable. But it can really undermine your sexual experience.
Americans are virtually obsessed with the normality of their sexual fantasies, preferences, responses, frequency, secrets, turn-offs, problems, and bodies. The fear of being sexually abnormal interferes with, and even prevents, pleasure and intimacy. The most common sexual question is "Am I normal?"
No Lover on V-Day?Make a choice.Have a pity party?Or make this small shift to magnetize love to you?
You don't have plans for a romantic Valentine's Day celebration with a beloved partner? Don't let that stop you from finding love today. How? By shifting your Love Focus.
Instead of focusing on the romantic love you lack, which steals your joy, stay focused on giving thanks for all the love in your life. Celebrate love on V-day by thanking people who've made a difference in your life, by sharing smiles and friendly words with people you see in your daily routines, by being kind and loving to yourself.
This Valentine's Day, the only kind of love you want is the real thing, and it starts with you!
I know. It’s that holiday again. The one where it seems like all of the women in the office are getting a big, gorgeous bouquet of flowers except you. Where you feel like there may as well be a big sign over your desk with an arrow pointing down saying “I don’t have anybody to send me flowers!”
Whether you find yourself celebrating The Ones Who Got Away or The One, do you know your Love Brand?
Happy Valentine’s Day! Or, as I used to call it when I ran my website BreakupChronicles.com, Happy Breakup Celebration Day.
Whether you find yourself celebrating The Ones Who Got Away (Thank God!) or The One, it’s important to remember that February 14th is just a day like any other.
But…because the world around us sends us messages about Love today, telling us we’re lucky if we HAVE a loving partner, and we’re lacking if we DON’T, I wanted to touch base and ask you something important…
You love getting candy...but hate how you feel after eating the whole box. You need these 3 tips!
Mary's husband walked in the door with a beautiful creamy box wrapped up with a red ribbon. He twinkled his eyes as he lovingly leaned over and gave her a kiss and presented her with her favorite chocolates. It was their Valentine’s Day tradition, and she always loved him for it. She also hated him for it. She knew that one bite would lead to devouring the box, regretting it and craving for more sweets in the weeks ahead. But, she couldn't wait to sink her teeth into that dark, rich chocolately raspberry filled nugget hiding under the lid!
Fun and creative ways to celebrate the day of love so that you do not sit at home wallowing.
If this is your first year being single after years of being married, don’t sit at home wallowing in the what if’s or if only’s decide to take charge of your life, get out and do something fun just for yourself.
Valentine’s Day does not just have to be about romantic love, you can celebrate the love of your family as well as self-love.
Here are 7 Ways a Divorced Woman Can Celebrate Valentine's Day:
What a moving and powerful film…THE HELP! If only each of us grew up with that mantra and truth.
What a moving and powerful film…THE HELP! If only each of us grew up with that mantra so that the lies of self-doubt and unworthiness would stop haunting us. In the movie the main character Abaleen (a black maid and nanny) would say to the 4 year old child that she cares for, these words each day…You is kind, You is smart, You is important. In the movie the mother would ignore her child and treat her badly. The little girl just loved Abaleen and told her that she was her real mom. She felt safe and loved in the arms of her caregiver.
