I’ve been through quite an ordeal the last three months – since 12 May to be exact. I remember this date because it coincided with a location-specific discussion I had with my BFF (Best Friends Forever) Pearly Phua one week after. You see… I’ve been battling hives nightly since May 2014, with the exception of three nights. It’s now 1 September. First things first… What is Hives?
Have you ever become bored after dating someone for a while because they moved really slowly in getting to know you, wanting to see you again, or committing to an exclusive relationship with you? Did you hope that that person would move faster because, for you, the excitement was wearing off? I have. No, you are not insane, impatient or abnormal! Okay, maybe a little impatient, but that’s perfectly fine.
Do any of these describe you? You’re exhausted from trying to make life work on your own. You’ve tried meditation but feel too jazzed to sit still for very long. Your mind is going a mile a minute. You’ve heard about shamanic journeying and are curious, but don’t know where to begin.
Are you having a hard time finding someone to date? “There is no one here for me.” Lisa frowned as she surveyed the ballroom filled with hundreds of single men and women. “I know some of these guys. They’re all boring. I can tell just by looking.” Lisa places a high value on charm and good looks. She’s horrified to see the pool of handsome, eligible men shrink as she ages.
Are you a “stick-a-rounder?” What’s a “stick-a-rounder?” David I hear you ask. Well a “stick-a-rounder” is someone who stays in a relationship even when its way past it’s sell by date. So many people do this. They get involved in a relationship where to begin with the positives and negatives are equal. The thing is, the relationship doesn’t truly satisfy their soul, and doesn’t make their heart sing. Trouble is, they stay in the relationship because it’s better than nothing.
In a recent study at the University of Virginia, people were asked to sit alone for a few minutes with no access to cell phones, books, or other distractions. In the room was a device that gave harmless but uncomfortable electric shocks. Everyone agreed to experience one shock at the beginning of the session. After feeling it, they all stated that, if necessary, they would give money to prevent more shocks. But additional shocks were optional. Participants were asked only to remain seated, to stay awake, and to entertain themselves with their thoughts for the next 15 minutes.
1 We don’t have to be so body conscious. Though many of us still are self-conscious, disdainful of excess weight or various parts of the body; we already know from life experience that the ability to attract a good sexual partner is less dependent on our body size and shape than we were led to believe. Also, there is leeway given by others because of age. It is assumed that our bodies are not in as good shape because we are older.
Understanding Boundaries: Learning How to Draw the “LINE”. In order for you to feel socially and emotionally integrated in your life, you may need to consider and re-define your boundaries. Just Draw the “LINE”. This involves: L Listen to the symptoms of burnout. I Identify ways you can take responsibility for change as it’s needed. N No is one of the only full sentence words in the English language.