I used to think that to become free you had to practice like a samurai warrior, but now I understand that you have to practice like a devoted mother of a newborn child. It takes the same energy but has a completely different quality. It's compassion and presence rather than having to defeat the enemy in battle. ~Jack Kornfield, "The Question" I love this statement by Jack Kornfield. Did you know that becoming free has to do with compassion and presence?
Here are 4 Shocking Facts About Break Ups and Divorce. In every state in the U.S, problems in, and outside, of marriage are causing couples to either breakup, or get divorced for less of a reason. In fact, in Oklahoma, the state with the highest overall divorce rate at 13.45%, just under a third of all adults who have been married have gotten a divorce. I’m not picking on the state of Oklahoma, because all of us, have, or are still contributing to that number. We’re doing so without considering the dire consequences that such is having on us as well as our children.
When you think of marriage or other committed relationships it is natural to also think that the commitment is bound by feelings. Sure you want to have loving feelings for the person you spend your life with, but the commitment piece should not be driven by feelings. This main reason for divorce or breakups is that people “fall out of love” and abandon the commitment when the relationship has challenges.
I cannot believe it! They are here. Every year I am ‘wow’d’ by how quickly the Holidays arrive! Aren’t you? I love Thanksgiving, not only because it is a cozy day, filled with friends and family…and football, but because of all the delicious flavors of the traditional foods that my family prepares each year. There is comfort in the ritual of preparing my grandmother’s dressing and homemade rolls. If I’m not careful, I would find myself eating all day long!
Texting has become the most popular and easy method of communication in our fast-paced world. Texting is efficient and gets the job done. Texting is great for quick bites of information. Texting is also great for sending those quick "I love you's," with a happy face icon during the day. The Danger
One of my very first clients is Anita. Five years ago she came to me broken-hearted. Her fiancé had just left her after talking about their near future plans to her and her parents just a few days previously. She didn't see it coming. But it happened and she was shattered to pieces. The pain was unbearable.
Do you tell the story of how you met completely differently? Can you not recall the first few months of your relationship? Does one partner completely forget about a major moment in your relationship? Did you forget about that big fight you had? According to study out of the University of Illinois, couples with distorted recollections of their relationship are less likely to marry. "People like to feel that they're making progress as a couple.
If you desire an amazing relationship with a man… If you want to bring out his alpha-male, you want to bring out the king in him… You need to stop micro managing him. A lot of women do it without realizing it. You do it because you care, but you don't understand how it triggers a man's mind. It can be something as simple as, “Are you going to go grab the kids from the play date today and take them to dinner?”
Deal breakers seem like a good idea, but they often serve as barriers to love rather than as healthy boundaries. YourTango expert Dr. Karen Finn puts a spotlight on how deal breakers hurt our relationships more than they help. She shares 5 ways to start a conversation about healthy expectations rather than threatening our partner with our list of demands.
Everyone knows that finding a partner whose personalities totally clicks with their own makes for happy couples. But that's not all there is to it. To make sure you and your sweetie have what it takes to go the distance, it's SO important to know your life purposes.