How Watching Porn Changes The Way Men And Women Have Sex (According To Reddit)

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Does Porn Change The Way Men And Women Are Having Sex? Reddit Answers
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People love to talk about how Internet porn changes the way men and women are having sex these days, but unless you count that one time a guy assumed I'd be totally down with him spitting on my face the first time we were ever in bed together, I think the belief that access to so many XXX clips online has warped male sexuality view is actually a vast over-generalization.

Personally, I think that people make too much out of all the damage porn is doing to our sex lives. Sure, I believe there are some serious problems in the porn industry, but that doesn't mean I see anything wrong with watching consenting adults get their freak on in a way I find arousing enough that it makes me want to masturbate. 

You may complain that porn demystifies sex, but I'm going to complain right back that you're wrong. 

I mean, if two pigs in Farmer Joe's mud pit have been having sex since time immemorial how "mystical" can sex really be?

I'll admit that it's annoying that things like sex acts, positions, and pubic grooming are in some ways now dictated by whatever it is the most popular porn stars are doing on camera, but that's not enough of a bugaboo of mine that I'm going to stop watching porn. 


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I also don't happen to think that watching porn has made the real sex I have any different than it would be otherwise. To me, the sexy videos I choose to watch have nothing to do with the actual sex I choose to have with a partner. They are two separate and totally different things.

That's my opinion, which is all well and good, but I understand that many hetero women would still like to know what the average man out there thinks about this subject. Do the sexually active hetero men of this world feel like porn affects the sex they have, or want to have, with women? I took it upon myself to snoop around and get some answers for you from the good men on Reddit.

Here's what 11 people think about whether or not porn changes the way men and women have sex.

1. Some guys believe watching porn makes arousal more difficult.

"I don't have a link, but there was a study done that concluded that those who regularly watch and masturbate to porn have a more difficult time getting aroused through normal sexual stimulation. Basically, it negatively affects your real-life sex life."

2. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

"Just talking to the bf about this a minute ago. We both see porn as a healthy alternative release when you just want to get off. We have an amazing sex life and neither if us feels threatened by the others' desire to masturbate alone to porn sometimes. We all need alone time."

3. Watching sex online is just a way to scratch the occasional itch.

"It does do that. But I'm not sure it's ever screwed me up when I did have a relationship going. Just can be a fun dirty release, when you need to ease the tension of being alone and horny. However, the lonely shuffle, pants around ankles, to fetch tissue can add to the feeling of wishing someone was there. Just part of being human, I think."

4. Checking out some sexy movie clips online expands your horizons, for better or for worse. 

"I have read of certain individuals having difficulty getting off via intercourse because the average female vagina cannot offer the same 'pressure' that one's own hand can. Furthermore, if one's relationship is comprised of rather vanilla sex but the partner viewing pornographic materials is watching rougher sex, the discrepancy could cause some sense of disappointment. As far as my own personal experience goes, I haven't noticed any side-effects to speak of. I am 22 and have been in both long term relationships and short flings without abstaining from watching porn."

5. It can be shocking for men who don't already know that women are just as sexual as they are.

"Porn has made me extremely paranoid. You always come across these videos with the most innocent beautiful girls/women. And It just leaves me sitting there like WTF. ARE THERE NO GOOD GIRLS LEFT?"  


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6. It's only problematic when someone chooses to see it as a problem.

"Very very few guys compare their girlfriends to porn stars. Sometimes we don't even see the girl. We see the position, the idea, potential. Trust me if you joined your bf while he was watching porn or showed interest in something he was watching he'll feel like he hit the jackpot. Porn ruins your sex life if your gf gets jealous of porn."

7. It can be "motivational."

"I consider it a challenge."

8. It makes no difference whatsoever.

"I haven't had any issues, and I watch a lot of porn."

9. It's only problematic if you take it too seriously.

"Only if the porn distances you in some way from your SO or reduces your interest in having sex with your SO or you insist on doing some kinky thing from a porno with your SO that they find repugnant."

10. Maybe, but lots of guys don't get to have much sex anyway.

"I've not been with anyone for a while so I'm not who you're looking for to answer, but I do worry that I've heard after being masturbation only for a while some guys have trouble with feeling down there when it comes to actual sex with someone. More masturbation based I guess but I'm assuming nobody watches porno for it's artistic or humanitarian merits."

11. Frankly, it doesn't make sex as bad as some "other things" do...

"No, but reddit ruins my [life]." 


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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a sex, humor and lifestyle writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She hosts the sex, love, and dating advice show, Becca After Dark on YourTango's Facebook Page every Tuesday and Thursday at 10:20 pm Eastern. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr.

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