The BEST Guide For Giving Deep Throat Blowjobs That Won't Make You Gag (Too Much)

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How To Give A Deepthroat Blowjob That Only Makes You Gag In The Good Way
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If you're curious about how to give a deep throat blowjob without gagging, we have the guide for you. 

Not to brag (well, actually, yes, to brag!), but the blow jobs I give have been called anything from “magnificent” to “marriage worthy." I fancy myself an expert on the topic and love every chance I get to impress yet another unsuspecting soul.

But while I enjoy the murmured praise I get and the assurance that there will be GOOD locker room talk about me, I still wouldn’t say that the actual act is exactly what I'd call "fun." Essentially, it’s appealing to the penis-haver because they get a warm wet caress, and it's appealing for the giver because they receive pleasure from pleasuring someone.

Deep throating can be really hard, I will not dispute that.

Most people are born with a gag reflex and shoving things down our throats isn't necessarily what anyone would call a practical skill.

That said, it’s a good one to have in your blowjob toolbox.

Knowing the general fear and anxiety many people feel before they've mastered this skill, I put together some tips — coincidentally, while at lunch at BJ’s Restaurant — so that when you're ready to try putting an object down your throat, you won’t bring anything back up with it!

How is deep throating different from traditional blowjob giving?

Effectively, it’s not. It’s just really deep, invasive blowjob giving. As a friend once said, I’d call deep throating a “party trick."

It's like the icing on a slice of cake. You get a little icing, then cake, then icing... but in the end, it’s mostly cake.

I won’t over-glamorize it. It’s not super comfortable, to be sure.

But if you’re into getting your partner off, if you get off on being able to do things others can’t, or if you like feeling successful doing something known to be difficult, it will be worth it to learn how to give it a go properly.

Performing this act feels exactly like you think it would, i.e., like there is a big thing in your throat choking you. This is because the placement blocks off your air pipe (but have no fear; you are not actually putting anythings down your air pipe). 

Be aware that it's going to be a messy process.

There will be lots of saliva and sometimes tears, not because it hurts, but because your eyes will be watering. There will be sounds you didn’t know were made by bodies. Nothing scary, just some gags and squelches coming from the motion and the amount of saliva. All of these things are normal and part of the process.

In my experience though, the messier it is, the hotter my partner finds it. You won't look, sound or feel dainty or cute. It’s a deeply sexual experience, and it looks like one.

So here are the seven steps to mastering my best deep throat blowjob techniques:

1. Find a phallic object.

Self-explanatory, really.

2. Acquire consent (your own included!) and permission to place said object in your mouth.

Talk with your partner about what you think your boundaries are. If you’ve never tried this before, tell them that. There's no shame in never having choked yourself like this before. If you are the object swallower, then decide what position you’re most comfortable in (see below for help with that).

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3. Assume the position.

Giving blowjobs is classically done while kneeling lower than your partner. We'll call this "Position 1", but if your partner is super big, your mouth is especially small, or you’re a beginner, you may want to try lying down on your back with your head hanging over the side of the bed so that you’re looking up at your partner and their penis is above your face in what we'll call "Position 2".

If you choose Position 1:

Make sure you have room to pull your head backward, as that’s the easiest way to grab a little break. This is especially perfect if you’re into submission play. That way, your hands can be by your sides (or even better between your own legs) while you look up at them as you get to work.

If you choose Position 2:

It will be hard to pull away when you’ve had too much and your mouth will be full, so have a talk beforehand about a motion or sign you can use to show your partner you need a break. You can also place your hands onto your partner's body and give them a little push away to signify that you need a second. This can definitely be an awkward position for your arms, so while you’re having a good old time and unless you need to push away, I suggest cupping your breasts (if you have them) with your hands. Your partner (if they like boobs) will love seeing them bounce up and down with your motions.

4. Open mouth, pull lips back over teeth so you look like you don’t have any, and stick out your tongue so it’s reaching towards your chin.

Have your partner go slowly down your throat until you decide how far you’re comfortable with, then communicate that distance to your partner. If they’re going slowly, it should be easy for you to take quick breaths when they pull out. If you get comfortable enough and feel ready for them to go faster, see how many thrusts you can take before needing a break.

I’m not going to lie to you. If he's got a chunky one, it’s going to be hard to breathe at times, but don’t let that freak you out. Breathe through your nose and DO NOT FEEL BAD about letting your partner know you need a rest. My general rule is 4-5 fast deep thrusts and then a breath (or about 8 seconds between breaths if you think better that way).

Do not try to deep throat for the duration of an entire blowjob! 

This is basically a sexual party trick. It’s not realistic or kind to expect yourself to be able to handle this for long periods of time. This is a tool for your blowjob giving tool box, but blowjobs take multiple tools.  Be okay that! 

5. Use your hands!

This tip was actually my motivation for writing this article. If you have to take a break from deep throating, let your partner know by putting your hand at the base of his member so he won't be able to thrust as deeply.

Hands are typically the most underused and underappreciated tool in this particular box. Think of it as an interactive experience with multiple things going on, multiple senses being stimulated, and multiple tools being used. If you’re in Position 2, have breasts, and don’t mind some up close and personal time with your partner's testicles and anus, use your hands to squeeze your boobs together and let your partner rub himself between them during your down times.

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6. Throw that, I-have-a-gag-reflex-so-I-can’t myth out of the window.

This is BS. Having spent 7 years of my life as a practicing bulimic, my throat is basically trained to puke, yet I’ve never puked on a penis. It just takes practice, some information under your belt, and trust in yourself, but you can suppress your gag reflex.

That being said, it’s still important to have good timing.

Deep throating will make you gag at one point or another, so don’t engage in this activity right after a large meal or binge-drinking episode. If you want to have a successful experience, wait until the food and/or liquids feel settled in your tum-tum.

7. Take it slow and chill, TRUST YO-SELF.

If you think, “OMG, I’m going to puke,” take the object out of your mouth! On the other hand, if all you’re thinking is, “Don’t puke! Don’t puke!” you’re probably going to puke (and also not do too great of a job). Just break when you need to. There's no shame in that! 

Now it’s time to be on your way, and I promise, all will be okay.

Just take your time and go slow, those are the only things you need to know.

(I didn’t really mean to rhyme, but it does happen from time to time.)

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This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.