How You Sabotage Yourself, According To Your Zodiac Sign

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Don't worry, you'll get over this temporary setback.

Though I usually stick with horoscopes, I’ve been reading a lot of empowering books lately and there’s one thing they all say: no matter how fantastic you feel about yourself, how confident you are most of the time, and how much self-love you feel for yourself, there are still going to be times when your self-esteem takes a hit.

There are times when our usually positive inner voice goes dark and brings up our insecurities, our worries, and our fears. It can be extra challenging to block out that voice and try to keep our confidence up.

Do you just ignore that voice and hope that it will go away or change its tune? Do you have one of those brutal talks with yourself in hopes that raw honesty will shock you into a better place?

One of the best things you can do for yourself when you’re feeling insecure and are having low self-esteem issues is to talk to somebody else like a friend or a therapist. Sometimes just having another perspective on a situation will help you to change your attitude.

 

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Self-care is always important and never more so when you feel as if confidence and self-regard are at an all-time low. You’re not Wonder Woman — there are days when you can’t handle everything that is thrown at you. Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do when you’re feeling down or even when you’re feeling good.

Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s life-saving and it improves your life when it’s one of your priorities. It can be helpful when dealing with low self-esteem and allow you to get to the root of the problem and try to find out why it happens when it does so you can avoid certain triggers.

Here’s why your self-esteem is low, based on your zodiac sign.

 

 

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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Your usual winning streak has hit a snag, and not only haven't you been winning, you've been losing big time. No one wins all the time and the wins wouldn't mean anything if they came so easily. You can't base your self-esteem on always crushing your opponent. You got out there, you competed, and so what if you lost? You'll live to play another day. 

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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You feel as if you're stagnating in your life. Could it be because you've been a bit too lazy and passively lately? You need to get out of your comfort zone and do something that makes you uncomfortable. Taking steps and risks (even tiny ones) will give you the boost you need to feel better about yourself.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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You take the fact that you're a procrastinator like it's a condemnation of your entire personality. You might delay finishing things or never finish them but that doesn't mean that's the way you are with everything. You can be unreliable and then you can also be extremely dependable and there when your friends and family need you. One character flaw doesn't mean that you're not amazing in a lot of other ways.

 

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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The reason why your self-esteem is low is that one of your relationships ended. It may have been a friendship where the two of you drifted apart and neither one of you made any attempt to salvage the relationship or it could have been a romantic relationship where your partner wanted more commitment from you. You can't blame yourself for everything that went wrong. Take responsibility for your part in the breakup but don't let it affect how you feel about yourself. When it's the right combination, your relationship will last. You can do relationships no matter what you may tell yourself.

 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

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You tend to compare yourself to how well other people are doing and find that you come up short. Look, it's not a contest. You're doing great and in time, you'll probably have whatever it is that you're coveting. Life isn't about who has the most expensive stuff, it's about experiences and growth, two things in which you are rich. It's okay to be materialistic as long as you don't use it as a reason to punish yourself.

 

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

 

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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Your self-esteem took a hit because you advised someone to do something that didn't turn out well. You can't always bat a thousand. You normally give excellent advice and it's the kind of advice that not only comes from the heart but you have back up for what you're saying. You research and find out whatever you can before you advise anyone of anything. These things happen, so don't let it shake your confidence. You're still the most helpful person around.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You're suffering from lower self-esteem than usual because you've been dwelling on some decisions you made that really backfired on you. You think because you made such a careful decision and took your time deciding that you should be rewarded with a positive outcome. But when that didn't happen, you blame yourself and start fixating on all the other ways that you fail. Try thinking about the small things that make you happy and the tiny triumphs you had throughout the day. I think you'll find that the bad decision was just a bleep on the radar.

 

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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You weren't able to get things going with that person you had your eye on and you're turning it back on yourself. Sometimes relationships don't work out and even if we love someone, they may not love us. That doesn't mean that you stop looking for someone or condemn yourself for not being lovable. You brush yourself off, wish them well, and move on. Honestly, once you put your mind to finding a partner, it most likely won't be too long until you do.

 

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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You were so busy joking around that you didn't get your submission to the contest in on time or you missed a fantastic opportunity because you didn't take it seriously. There are times when you need to be mature and be on top of things so you don't miss out.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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The reason why your self-esteem is low right now is that you feel as if you've been letting down your friends and family. You make these high goals for yourself and then rather than celebrating what you've achieved, you fault yourself for not doing more. The truth is you are doing a lot, more than most, and you're not letting anyone down. You have more people who are proud of you and your accomplishments than you even know.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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You thought you had invented the next big "it" thing but when it didn't pan out, you turned your disappointment in on yourself. Instead of focusing on your failure, get back to work and figure out where you went wrong. If you can't scrape it, come up with something else. Your creative brain is constantly coming up with million-dollar ideas at some point and if you stick with them, something will hit.

 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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Your self-esteem is suffering because once again you put your trust into someone who didn't deserve it and you were burned. You're a trusting soul and so filled with kindness that you expect everyone to be the same. Unfortunately, people can be cruel and they can lie but that doesn't mean you need to become like them or blame yourself for giving someone multiple chances. The truth is you'll probably make this kind of mistake again and the best thing for you to do is to try and learn whatever you can from it and let it inspire you to create some kind of art.

 

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