I Tried A Handheld Clit Vibrator During Sex To See If It Would Get Me Off Better

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Can a handheld vibrator help you climax sooner?

Some things are easier than others: Swiping left on the man dressed as a unicorn. Ordering pumpkin lattes in the fall.  Other things take a little more effort. Teaching your mom how to use the internet. Deciphering what Rihanna is saying in "Work." Achieving orgasm while having penetrative hetero sex.

The ladies behind wearable vibrator Eva (feminist badasses Alex and Janet of Dame products) have now brought us the best vibrator to use during sex: the Fin. Crafted of medical-grade silicone, this pastel-colored vibe is designed to be worn on or between your fingers.

I tried the Eva without much success but I was more excited than Elizabeth Warren at a Senate Confirmation when it came to the Fin. Heterosexual sex is super-fun but presents one major problem: It doesn't always stimulate your clitoris. (Major oopsy on the part of the man upstairs. Gonna add that to my list of WTFs.)

Why women weren't designed to be stimulated inside rather than out is one of those mysteries of life. 

I was hoping the Fin would bridge the pleasure gap so I wouldn't have to solely rely on getting the right angle each time to get off. My boyfriend, T, and I tried it in the three most common positions: missionary, reverse cowgirl, and doggy style. Here's what happened:

Missionary

Slipping the Fin between my fingers, I reached down to help get myself off while T did his thing. The Fin has three speeds — and of course, I went right to the highest setting. Nonetheless, the buzz wasn’t super-aggressive but it was titillating enough to get my lady bits feeling warm and fuzzy. Any more intense and the vibe might become the star of the show.

The Fin was more of a helpful partner, like a magician’s assistant. However, in missionary position, it didn’t quite do the trick. From a purely angular point of view, it’s hard to maneuver the Fin when there’s a man pounding into you and/or it.

Reverse Cowgirl

Given what just happened in the missionary position, I knew there was no way the Fin would work with girl on top. But I figured reverse cowgirl would give me enough room to move the Fin where she needs to be: right on top of my clit. And indeed I did have way more space.

But trying to steer the ship and use a vibrator was more challenging than I thought. Don’t get me wrong; it was highly enjoyable. But with one arm out of commission to use the Fin, I had to rely on all those arm exercises I did in boot camp. It was exhausting.

Doggy Style

All I have to say is “f*ck yeah!” This is where the Fin shines — as Riri might say, “bright like a diamond.” Doggy style is ideal for reaching down pleasuring yourself, Fin or no Fin. Having Fin there to help out took sex to a whole new (and super-fun) level.

I’ve yet to ever use a vibrator successfully while having sex so this was a first for my vag. It’s like being drunk and high at the same time. Peanut butter and chocolate. A threesome. OK, I’ve only ever tried a peanut butter cup, but I can imagine the other two.

Obviously, the Fin can also be used solo or with same-sex sex couples, but as a hetero female, I can only speak of my own trials and tribulations. As for solo play, there's a ton of other vibrators out there that may be much better suited to get you off, sans partner.

Regardless, I love the Fin! No longer do I have to rely on my fingers for extra stimulation (which, to be honest, I was never good at). Now that I have the Fin by my side I feel like I can do anything. Not climb Mount Everest or anything — just have totally awesome 100 percent orgasmic sex. 

 

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