The BEST Relationship Of My Entire Life Is The One I Have With My Daddy Dom

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What It's Like Being The Submissive In A DDLG BDSM Relationship
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Some of you have probably wondered what BDSM stands for. To answer that question, BDSM traditionally stands for bondage/discipline, Dominance/submission, sadism/masochism.

Within the wide spectrum of BDSM relationships, there is a distinct relationship known as DDlg — which stands for Daddy Dominant/little girl. DDlg relationships possess aspects of BDSM but do not typically include the more hardcore, pain-related components BDSM is commonly known for.

DDlg relationships usually involve at least some degree of age play and Daddy Dominants (or Mommy Dominants/Dommes/Femdoms/etc.) are often nicer and more respectful of their little (who could also potentially identify with any gender).

I am currently in a BDSM DDlg relationship with my fiancé.

I wanted to give up control, but I need to be able to trust the person who is my Dominant and I need to feel sure that person understands me.

 

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My Daddy Dom is one of the best Dominants I have ever had. He knows what I need and he knows how we need to format rules.

Work and school take top priority. For example, we have a rule that says I have to turn in all my homework on time.

Our DDlg relationship includes age play.

My little age is around 11 or 12. I love my stuffed animals and I am not afraid to admit that. We have an entire bed covered with stuffed animals.

I also like to color and have game nights with my Daddy. We play cards, Monopoly, Connect Four, Trouble, and Sorry. I have a whole coloring bin and game bin.

I love cuddle time as well. Cuddle time is honestly my favorite time.

Being in this relationship I am in with my fiancé, I have grown up and learned so much.

There are things I should have learned years ago that my fiancé/Daddy has now taught me. I feel safe and secure knowing he is so supportive of me and what I want to do with my life and is willing to do anything to help me get there.

I honestly have no idea what I would do without him. He is my rock and he helped me when I was going through tough times.

During my first year of college, I spent the Fall break at his house and a week later I ended up moving in with him because things got really rough at my home. I needed a place where I could get my school work done in peace and focus on my physical and mental health because I was really struggling at home. I moved in and kind of just let things fall into place and have been so much happier since.

We also have a blast experimenting with kinky things in the bedroom! We hardly ever do anything vanilla, unless it’s one of those days when we’re both worn out and exhausted.

 

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For those of you interested in taking on a submissive role in a BDSM relationship of any kind, my advice is to do it with someone you know and feel safe with.

As is true with any type of relationship, if you don’t feel safe, BDSM can soon become toxic and ultimately fail. Always make sure you feel safe and there is mutual consent regarding everything in the relationship.

In a BDSM relationship, you should always work together with your Dominant to establish the rules upfront.

If something seems sketchy — back out!

My fiancé and I sketch out fresh rules and punishments every few months to make sure they still fit our lifestyle and that we both still agree on everything. Be sure to find someone who you believe is a safe person and that you trust completely, regularly review your rules with your Dominant, and make sure you always authentically agree with what you’ve both agreed to.

Being in this kind of a relationship is definitely fun, but you have to be safe.

I really encourage this kind of relationship for those who find a vanilla lifestyle boring, enjoy being able to play and have fun, and are open-minded when it comes to the idea of learning new things from a Dominant.

Personally, I love being a little ... and getting the attention my Dominant gives me!

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This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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