Being with these guys is a surefire way to unhappiness.
As much as we all like to think that relationships are something that is inherently part of a human experience, they’re not. There are people who can do relationships with ease, and then there are people who just aren’t capable of being happy in a relationship no matter how good their partners are. People who fall into that second category either have too many issues, are too selfish or are otherwise just not built for it.
Though there’s often a feeling like we need to fix guys who are like this or that we need to prove them wrong, don’t bother. The only person who can change them is themselves and trying to get into a relationship with one of these types will only leave you with heartbreak.
Here are the 12 guys who are bad at relationships. Yes, that means you should avoid them at all costs.
1. The Abuser
Abusers never change. If he’s making digs at your appearance, talking about how other girls are better than you or otherwise making you feel like sh*t, he’s not going to change. Men like this aren’t capable of love or having happy marriages because the only time they’re happy is when their partners are suffering.
2. The Serial Cheater
A lot of people will tell you that “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, but the truth is that there are a select few who change. Men who cheat on a regular basis won’t change because it’s in their nature to be selfish, to lie, and to cheat.
These kinds of guys would be a lot better off if they would just be polyamorous and honest, but the fact is that they are too insecure to feel okay with women fooling around on them. As a result, they aren’t capable of relationships — at least, not happy ones.
3. The Mama’s Boy
Every woman I know has met one guy who had a mom who was way too invested in her son’s dating life. With guys who are straight up Mama’s Boys, they will always choose their mother over you. Unfortunately, this means that they may refuse to marry you due to mom’s wish, or may let their mom abuse you.
Mama’s Boys whose mothers have died also tend to be bad partners because they’re looking for a replacement mom. Don’t go for this kind of guy; they’re just awful.
4. The Steaming Pile Of Insecurities
This guy doesn’t want a girlfriend as a partner; he wants a girlfriend who just acts like a validation-giving machine. He’s so insecure that he needs someone or something to feed his ego. The problem with this is threefold.
First off, the guy in question won’t consider his partner’s feelings because he’s too busy bolstering up his own. Secondly, most guys who fit this bill tend to be totally uncaring about who they date and don’t actually take the time to know and appreciate them as people. Lastly, if this insecure mess gets better, they usually dump the girl who helped them.
5. The Guy Who’s The Center Of His Universe
One major problem I’ve noticed with a lot of men in the dating scene is that they only care about themselves — often to the point that manners, common courtesy, and empathy go out the window. It’s so common that it’s sickening, and guys who have these traits don’t even realize why they’re single. The reason why they’re single is because relationships require you to be able to think about someone other than yourself and that’s impossible for them to do.
6. The Guy With No Goals, No Interests, And No Life
There are a lot of people out there who just want someone to pay their bills and let them mooch off of them. They have no interest in bettering themselves, nor do they really want to care for their partner. In a word, these are people whose lives suck and who are fine living a totally parasitic lifestyle.
The funny thing about most parasites is that they weaken or even end up causing the deaths of their hosts. Oddly enough, most people stuck with these kinds of human parasites often end up as shells of their former selves too. Think about that and you’ll see why they can’t be in relationships.
7. The Guy Who’s Emotionally Unavailable
He’s down for sex, he can be fun to befriend, but in terms of commitment? Hell no. These are the kinds of guys who just literally don’t have it in them to be good in a relationship, most often due to emotional baggage they hold onto. Though emotionally unavailable guys might become emotionally available later on, waiting for him to make that leap is a very bad idea since there’s no saying it’ll happen.
8. The Guy Who Can’t Admit When He’s Wrong
There are a ton of people out there, both male and female, who can’t admit when they’re wrong. Unfortunately, part of actually keeping a relationship healthy is being able to be honest and apologize when you hurt someone. Therefore, this is incompatible with keeping a relationship.
9. The Guy Who Hates Women
You can’t have a relationship with something you hate and expect it to be healthy. It just won’t work.
10. The Guy Who Can’t Actually Talk To A Girl About Difficult Subjects
Ever meet someone who could never admit when something bothered them? Usually, if you have, they tend to be doormats who seem to suddenly explode, often over a small issue that could be easily solved. This isn’t healthy. If you don’t have the ability to have a normal, constructive conversation about a difficult topic with your partner, you won’t make it.
11. The Guy Who Can’t Accept Personal Boundaries
Boundary pushers are terrible people, primarily because they have no problem with making people uncomfortable or even seriously upset as long as they get their way. People like this are toxic — extremely toxic — and as such, they aren’t capable of a loving relationship with anyone other than themselves.
12. The Guy Who’s Always Looking For Something Better
I totally understand wanting to get the best partner for you, but the problem here is that there’s only a certain level of perfection that a human being can get. If he keeps ogling other women or won’t uninstall Tinder, he’s not capable of a relationship, primarily because he thinks he’s better than anyone he’s ever met or will meet. Sad? Yes, but there is some good news. Guys like this end up alone and miserable.