Zen Spanking Is The Newest (And Chillest) Kink You NEED To Try

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Zen living just got super kinky!

Ah, spanking.

I love being spanked. 

I didn't as a kid. But what kid does?

As an adult, I find spanking to be one of my favorite kinks. 

I'm an out and proud member of the BDSM community, I'm an advocating for spanking, and there's nothing I enjoy more than explaining the kink to people who are curious about it or confused by it. 

That said, even I was slightly taken aback when I read about Zen Spanking for the first time. 

What, you might ask, could possibly be zen about being spanked for sexual pleasure?!


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Well, it actually makes a whole lot more sense than you might think. 

Zen Spanker Jesse Thomas-Hall is perhaps the most famous "zen spanker" on the internet, and explained the practice to Echo Net Daily:

‘Zen spanking is in the niche that I refer to as conscious kink,’ says Jesse.

Jesse explains how he tries to marry kink, as in BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Sadism & Masochism – basically being tied up and punished), with Tantra.

‘Tantra is very yin,’ he reassures me. ‘It’s very holistic. With kink, it’s much more yang – basically it’s about intensity.’

That's a lot of BDSM and sex-positivity in-speak, I know. 

But it makes sense, even in layperson's terms.

In spanking, there is a traditional "top" (the spanker) and a "bottom" (the person receiving the spanking.) 

From there, the spanker can use their hands, or a paddle, or a flogger, or any other manner of tool. 

People who love spanking are into the control and into the marks the spanking can leave behind. 

While discipline and pain are a huge component in this BDSM kink practice, there's another aspect that doesn't get talked about as much.

That's the intense connection between the top and the bottom during spanking.

Zen spanking is all about focusing on that connection.

The top is in service to the bottom.

That might sound counterintuitive, but it's not if you really think about what's going on during a zen spanking session.

In zen spanking, the only tool used is the spanker's hand. 

The top and bottom focus just as much on connecting with each other and communicating (for the spankee) and listening (for the spanker). 

By shifting the focus of spanking into the intensely personal, the spankee can reach a state of mind that's similar to the euphoria that can come with meditation.

Zen spanking obviously isn't everyone.

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If you're a kinky person who likes BDSM mainly for the pain aspect, this might not be for you.

Zen spanking is intensely personal and more about the connection between the two people involved than it is about seeing just how much pain a person can take. 

That said, Zen spanking could be a great introduction to kink if you're a person who has always wanted to try it out. 

You might find that you love the closeness Zen spanking brings you and your partner.

But you might also find that focusing on emotions is exactly the last thing you want to be doing in the bedroom. 

Either way, it's cool that this kink exists because it definitely helps, in my opinion, people who aren't kinky understand an aspect of what can make kinking such a hot bonding sexual practice. 

 

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