It's for your own good.
For a long time, I was against the male selfie. I know, it’s hypocritical and slightly sexist, but I was pretty confident that the only guys who took them were totally in love with their own reflection.
Call me crazy, but it’s what I saw.
I’ve since come around to the idea that selfies are for everyone, and I have no room to judge — well, some room.
The majority of the ones I see on my newsfeed are cringe-worthy.
Strange faces, obvious muscle flexing and weird captions dominate the melfie (male-selfie, if that term gets big remember it started here), and it needs to stop, especially in this day in age where you’re meeting tons of people online.
Social media is a way of connecting with others, sure, but it’s also a way of branding yourself to the rest of the world.
People — even those you meet IRL first — will go to your Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to get a better idea of who you are.
You want to make sure the content you’re putting out there is a good reflection of you.
We say “don’t judge a book by its cover,” but we know everyone does anyway. Having a bunch of mediocre or bad melfies could have a girl (or an employer even!) write you off before she even gets to know you. It’s a cruel world out there, but in order to succeed you have be somewhat cool online.
Now I’m by no means promoting the idea that you have to fake or completely calculated with your online presence in order to be taken seriously.
I think authenticity goes a long way, and if you play your cards right, you can capture that in a melfie.
It’s not about making yourself more attractive to other people or even worrying about what they think. It’s about putting your best self forward so you have less standing in the way of what you want.
Photos of yourself only work if you find that right balance between “everybody knows this was staged and it took 140 shots to get it” and “Oh, wow! I didn’t even mean to take a photo, oops.” Walking that fine line is an art that many girls have mastered, but most guys have not.
No worries, I’m here to help. Follow these 6 golden rules of male selfies (and female selfies yo), and you should be just fine:
We know what your face looks like. We don’t need to see it 12 times a week. Also, the more diverse your posts are, the more attractive you’ll look.
You have a full, awesome life and there are tons of things to show off other than your face.
Don’t selfie just to selfie, you feel me? There are hundreds of other things you could share besides your face.
My rule is to only post when I’ve got a good caption to go with it — which usually means something happen (other than my face) that I want to share.
If you’re gonna selfie, selfie good. Natural lighting is always the best and way better than flash. Do not use flash, and do not use too many editing tools.
Stay away from the blur feature.
No more dirty mirror selfies with countertops all messy and your boxers on the floor. Like, please.
Clean up after yourself.
I’m sorry, but when I see a guy who in all his pictures is making the same dumb face that I never see them make in real life, then it looks like they’re trying wayyyyyy too hard.
Just be yourself dammit. People can tell when it’s forced.
Do you want to look pissed 24/7?? The smoldering stare into your camera lens isn’t doing it for anybody. I get that you want to look tough and manly — and a few of those are totally okay — but throw a smile in there every once and awhile.
Girls like seeing guys who are happy.