How NOT To Be A Crazy Ex After Your Breakup


Stop cyber-stalking and start moving on.

Are you turning into the crazy ex?

When you’re in the throes of a breakup, you're not quite yourself. Whether it’s only been a week or years, the pain and agony of losing someone you have deep feelings for truly hurts.

It hurts physically, mentally and spiritually. Like an addiction, the heartache and longing can turn any normal person into a weeping, obsessive, confused heap of emotions.

You find yourself doing things that are totally out of your character — things that feel as if they’re subconsciously driven by some freaky fanatic lurking in your psyche.


You find yourself perpetually watching his activity on social media or analyzing his online photos for any signs of a new love in his life. You catch yourself driving by your old hangouts hoping to see him. You find yourself toying with the idea of reaching out to his buddies for information. You fight the urge every day to text or call him to either negotiate some kind of compromise or question him to death in order to feel some kind of closure.

Your emotions feel as though they're consuming you and nothing seems to help. Not the nightly pint of ice cream, or the overindulging in alcohol or the marathon of sappy movies you can’t seem to stop watching. Every song is a reminder, as is every place you go.

Even your friends are starting to get that glazed look in their eyes when you talk about it ... again.

So how do you get off this emotional Merry-Go-Round?

You’re tired of feeling out of control. You know you have to get over it and you want to, but the emptiness nags at you and it feels like you've lost control of your brain! You’re either feeling numb from the emotional exhaustion or fatigued from the relentless questions circling in your head.


What can you do now to stop this madness? How can you better cope with these out of control feelings? What can you learn about yourself from this experience and perhaps better handle any future similar situations?

Take a few minutes for yourself and watch this video to learn the answers to these questions. Melanie Gorman (YourTango Experts Senior VP) and our panel of experts (Author and Anthropologist Helen Fisher, Dating Coach Deni Abbie, Relationship Coach Lewis Brown Griggs and Family Coach Melanie McGrath) have some great professional advice on how to best handle the pain and craziness that a breakup can cause. They will reassure you that you’re not a lunatic, you’re just in pain, and there are practical ways to cope.

After watching the video, if you still have questions or continue to struggle, feel free to visit their websites or maybe even just contact Deni, Lewis, Melanie or Helen.


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