Sorry Boys: High Standards Don't Equal High Maintenance

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High Standards Don't Equal High Maintenance Relationships
Love, Self

Kindly move along.

The term "strong woman" sure attracts a lot of haters.

As a frequent writer of headlines with the empowering phrase, I know not everyone is a fan of the idea. That's fine, and we're all entitled to believe what we want to believe, but what I've found is that most of the negative comments I receive come from men.

Men complaining that women's standards are too high and wishing them a sarcastic "good luck" on their next relationship. 

Well let me be the first to tell you sirs: these women don't need your luck and their standards aren't high (at least when it comes to suitable men they'd actually want to date). 


There's a saying I always tell myself when I feel like I'm about to be a whiny little brat (which is often): confidence is quiet, insecurities are loud. 

Men who love to cry and scream that women want too much attention or have unrealistic romantic expectations are not to be listened too. There will always be people who want to bring you down.

There will always be guys who want to bring out your insecurities — only because your strength brings out all of theirs. 

Relationships are supposed to be a system of support. The whole point of being that close to someone is to be able to count on them to lift you up and make you a better person.

Constantly telling you that you want "too much," or that you're "high-maintenance" is kind of counterproductive. 


Knowing what you want doesn't make you high-maintenance. Not putting up with disrespect doesn't make you high-maintenance. You have the right to have the relationship you want, regardless what anyone else thinks. 

So next time some tells you to cool it on the confidence and maybe even makes you doubt your own stances, fight off the negative feelings and feel flattered. 

Your sense of self is so powerful that it makes insecure people uncomfortable. And while it would be an amazing world to live in if everyone was happy with themselves, that's sadly not the case. 

Don't make people feel comfortable by sacrificing your standards. Ever.




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