Why Men Want A FREAK In The Sheets & A LADY In The Streets

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Why Men Want A Freak in the Sheets & A Lady in the Streets
Love, Sex

He wants you sexy, but not so sexy that his friends ogle you.

What do men want? I constantly wonder. To me, they're often mysterious creatures just as much as women are to them.

But there are two things I have learned about men that I think stands the test of time: if you're a freak in bed, they don't want you advertising it. They don't want the whole world to know that their woman likes it hard, often and nasty. They don't want other men knowing you want it kinky, wild or frequently.

Unfair, isn't it? Damn right. But it's the truth. Why? Think about it: Your man might love to brag to his friends that you're kinky, wild and like sex often. Your man might want to say to all the guys complaining that their women "don't give them any," that "My woman satisfies me all the time. And then some."

He might want you to go out and wear something sexy. He may absolutely love it when other men look at you and find you desirable. He doesn't want his friends to ogle your body; he wants them to appreciate your beauty.


But the idea of them getting off over you? Secretly, he enjoys it, but he doesn't want to hear it. He doesn't want it advertised so much that his friends feel the need and right to comment all about you, in front of him.

We women love when women find our men attractive, too. But there's a difference in offering a smoldering appearance and then letting it all hang out. The truth is, your man wants some of those kinky mysteries about you to remain mysteries. He wants a freak in the sheets and a lady on the street.

The lady on the street? She's mom-meeting potential. She's someone you look up to. She's someone who's not taking constant hot selfies of herself and posting it all over her social media. Sure, sometimes she snaps a beauty for longevity's sake and she deserves to, but she's not puckering her lips and showing off her body all the time. She knows when to cover up and when not to. She knows when to show off and when not to.


If you were always a lady, 24/7, he wouldn't enjoy that, either. He wants a woman who feels comfortable enough to let her hair down and get what she wants in bed. If you're afraid to get naked, are uncomfortable with your body, are too prim or proper, or are simply cold and restricted in the bedroom, he'll lose interest — fast.

It's a balance. And it sucks in many ways that women are expected to be two parts lady and two parts sex kitten, and if we cross into either territory too often or too much, men judge us.

If you're putting him off every night, you're cold and unfeeling. If you're showing every single angle of yourself off for the public to see, you're too slutty.


He wants you to walk a line — a tightrope at times — but a line that showcases that you respect and love your body, and love yourself to know when it's showing off or when it's blatant neediness and thirst. If you're always "thirsty," he feels like not only is he not enough for you but that you're a bottomless pit of need, need, need.

If you walk around every day and in the bedroom like you're part of a political conference, he might begin to feel like the "lady" doesn't know how to let her guard down. The "lady" doesn't know how to have fun or enjoy her own God-given curves.

No matter what, men want a freak in the sheets and a lady on the streets. Make sure you know when to cross lines, lest you give off the wrong impression. The truth may hurt, but it's still true.

Consider this: if your man was jaw-droppingly gorgeous, would you want him always flaunting his stuff? Would you want him to know how to manage social situations? When it's appropriate to let it all hang out and when it's not?


I think you would.


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