It's time to end the cycle.
I like to believe we all start out as decently good human beings.
But somewhere along the road, shit hits the fan and we get hurt. Some people rise above whatever heartbreak or struggle they've endured, and others, well, become total assholes.
We can argue that it is or isn't their fault all day long, but the truth of the matter is if you're still recovering from a relationship, you shouldn't get involved with anyone else.
I'm going to repeat myself one more time for the douchebags in the back who are stalking their ex-girlfriend's Instagram while simultaneously hitting on chicks at Chili's. CUT. IT. OUT.
We don't care if it's been three days, three months, or three years. If you're still pissed off and hurt from your last breakup, don't enlist someone else to clean up YOUR mess.
The old saying "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else," is completely misguided and actually really effed up.
Unless it's been totally disclosed you're currently damaged goods and only available for a hookup, stay away from anybody new. People who use other people to get over their ex are just numbing the pain they feel. No real healing is happening at all.
So not only are you sabotaging your own recovery, but you're wasting the time of a innocent bystander. Someone who is healed and ready for a relationship, now has to deal with the new emotional turmoil you've caused by being a careless dick.
So if you're thinking about having a boozy night out in hopes of taking home yet another distraction, maybe stop? Like, don't?
Compare it to the sense of responsibility you have when you take an Uber after a one too many whiskey gingers.
You have the same responsibility to not get other people's hopes up if you're in no shape for a new relationship.