Happy wife, happy life.
Each person is different, so this list may not apply to all wives. But after extensive research, I'm convinced the following "needs" represent the daily desires of most women:
1. They need to feel loved.
A husband communicates love for his wife both by his words and his actions. A husband should tell his wife daily (multiple times) that he loves her, but those words should be affirmed by the tenderness and thoughtfulness of his actions.
2. They need to feel beautiful.
Whether a women is dressed up to go out or hanging around the house in an old t-shirt, she needs to feel beautiful in her husband's eyes. A husband fulfills this need by telling her she's beautiful, flirting with her, showing affection, and also by having eyes only for her. A man can't gawk at every woman passing by or on TV and then be believable in telling his wife he has eyes only for her.
3. They need to be held.
A woman's need for physical affection is a daily desire. This can be met through hugs and caresses throughout the day, as well as the husband giving a shoulder/back/foot massage at the day's end. Those touches meet a physical and an emotional need. This can include sexual intimacy, but women tend to have a greater need for physical touch outside the bedroom than men.
4. They need communication.
A woman's need for communication is usually just as strong as the typical man's need for sex. Communication should happen throughout the day, including at least one conversation per day that's without any interruptions (no kids, phones, electronics).
5. They need thoughtfulness.
When a man is thoughtful, it simultaneously communicates love, concern, appreciation and respect for his wife. Thoughtfulness isn't just for romantic holidays; it's a daily need and a vital ingredient for a healthy, happy marriage.
This article was originally published at strongermarriages.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.