Now we've seen everything.
Now that Fifty Shades of Gray has made BDSM positively mainstream, people are starting to become more familiar with all the variations of submission and dominance. Since being dominated isn't just about being tied up and whipped, some submissive prefer their domination to be about being verbally humiliated.
And those who desire that verbal abuse want it to be given by a specific kind of a Dominatrix: a Humiliatrix.
In the The New York Post, humiliatrix Betty Pickle talks about her job, saying, "I specialize in verbally humiliating men who get satisfaction, sexual or otherwise, from being cast in the role of a submissive."
A Humiliatrix cuts down, insults, makes fun of, and verbally treats her client like crap. She may do so in private, in public, or via webcam.
When speaking to one gentleman online, she realized, "The meaner I was to him, the more he wanted to talk to me." Once she found her niche audience, she focused her attention on (as she says on her NSFW website) creating videos specifically designed to exacerbate your inexplicable urge to have a pretty girl ruin your life.
In an article in the Daily Mail, Lynch says. "I make most of my money from videos. They are POV-style videos which means it's just me and the camera, and I'm looking at the camera so the viewer feels like I'm talking to him."
Subscribers pay a monthly fee of $39.99 for access to her site, and she charges also for custom videos.
What the Humiliatrix is abusive about varies. According to Stefan (name changed), an actual submissive leaning towards verbal abuse, "I like it when a Humiliatrix will say things such as, 'You're worthless,' or, 'You're such a loser. You have to come here and pay me to get off.'"
Stefan says that verbalizing the humiliation is part of the ritual. Clients like their type of verbal humiliation to happen the same way every time.
The website Sensual Humiliation says, "Generally, a good Humiliatrix doesn't just seize upon the first thing she can find and make fun of the submissive about it. A really fulfilling humiliation session actually requires a good bit of forethought. The more perceptive the Humiliatrix is, the more effective she will be."
Being a Humiliatrix isn't something that everyone can do. You have to be smart, creative, and have an instinct for what the client needs by way of humiliation.
Sometimes, Humilatrixes will say humiliating things of a sexual nature, like telling the client he has a small penis and shaming them for it, or the Humiliatrix may threaten to make them have sex with another sub.
Some of the verbal humiliation can be exceedingly inappropriate, politically incorrect, and racist, but it's about what works for the client.
All photos: Ceara Lynch
During a session, a Humiliatrix may have her male client dress in women's clothes, take him out to a public place and verbally abuse him — a combination of verbal and physical humiliation. Whether he's dressed in women's clothing or not, the Humiliatrix may order him to go to the bathroom and make him sit rather than stand.
Another fetish that falls under the verbal umbrella is something called JOI, or Jerk Off Instructions, where the man is given detailed instructions on how to masturbate, often being told to stop and start again at the whim of the Humiliatrix.
Someone who's into verbal humiliation may know the reasons behind their fetish (such as poor self-esteem or having too much responsibility in life, and needing verbal humiliation to fully relax), but others may have no idea why they like the things that they do; they just have a craving and feel the need to be verbally cut down.
As Stefan (who's spent thousands of dollars in tributes (payment) to Humiliatrixes) says, "I just feel so relaxed after a good session."
For Humiliatrix Ceara Lynch, verbal abuse and humiliation is all in a profitable day's work.