The 11 Stages Of Falling In Love With Your Friend With Benefits

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You told yourself it was only physical. You lied.

Nowadays it’s not uncommon to know at least one person who’s had a “friends with benefits” relationship in his or her life. Maybe it’s not your cup of tea, but it has definitely become a rather generalized term in today’s society.

But I never really understood the term "friends with benefits." It implies there's no benefit to simply having a friend. If your friend truly has no benefit to you, are they really a helpful addition to your life?

"Lovers without obligation" seems more apt to describe this interesting category of relationship. It’s the “no strings attached” theory that gets men excited about a stress-free, cheap way to... ya know... get some. No expensive dinners or fancy candle lit bedrooms are needed; it’s the perfect solution to an easy way to satisfy a craving that’s fun for the both of you, right? Wrong.

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No matter what you call it, you can definitely file it under "it's complicated" in terms of Facebook relationship status, especially when you start to see more than just booty in your booty call.

Relationships are sticky, even if it’s not labeled as such. Even in a “friends with benefits” situation, emotions are entangled and someone is bound to get hurt if everyone isn’t on the same page.

It may start out well for the two of you. It’s all fun, light-hearted, and genuinely exciting, so there’s really no need to worry about what could happen in your friendship down the road. But somewhere along the way, your heart may begin to whisper fluttering thoughts that you didn’t realize were hidden away up in that brain of yours and you might start falling in love with your friends with benefits.

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You might start to get butterflies around them or want to be assured that they’ve arrived home safely after your last hot fling. Time lingers on and the friendship you once viewed as generally platonic with a little fun on the side gradually turns into something more. Uh oh.

Before you know it you’ll be prepping yourself for “the talk,” or trying to convince yourself to ignore those nagging thoughts instead. But the deed is done and you have feelings for this person now. You’ll start to ask yourself if it’s too late to turn back, or if you’ll screw things up, or, or, or...

No matter what stage of questioning you’re in, once you realize your feelings for someone, it’s nearly impossible to avoid. Inevitably, this is how that rollercoaster of emotions will go down when you are falling in love with your friends with benefits.

1. This is perfect. I’ll never need more than this.
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2. Oh sh*t, I want more than this.
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3. Do I tell them, or bottle this inside forever?
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4. Let's drop some hints to test the waters.
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5. The hints didn't help at all. I'm more confused than ever.
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6. No problem, I'll just go back to how it was before.
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7. Damnit, I can't go back to how it was before.
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8. Screw it, I'm gonna tell them.
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9. No, that's dumb. Play it cool.
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10. Eff it, it's now or never.
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11. I never should've done that. Time to find a new FWB.
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