HOW many kids and counting?!
A big family with five or more kids is no longer a thing. Parents now need less farm hands, birth control access, and expenses on the rise. But what is the magic number of kids you should have for a happy home?
Some say the less, the better, but a new study has found a very shocking answer.
According to a survey of 7,000 U.S. mothers conducted by TODAYMoms.com, mothers who have three kids are pretty stressed, but mothers of four kids have lower stress levels. They're calling it "The Duggar Effect."
That doesn't sound right. What's going on? Dr. Janet Taylor is a psychiatrist and mother of four and she wasn't surprised by the survey's findings at all.
"There's just not enough space in your head," explains Dr. Taylor to iVillage. "It just gets to be survival!"
The same survey found that a lot of stress that weighs down mothers is from wanting to be perfect. A whopping 75 percent of mothers report being stressed from pressure they put on themselves to be perfect and avoid judgment from others.
However, Dr. Taylor also thinks The Duggar Effect has to do with "practice makes perfect."
"The more children you have, the more confident you become in your parenting abilities," Dr. Taylor continues. "You have to let go ... and then you're just thankful when they all get to school on time."
So, if you want to stop caring about mommy wars, you should think about having four kids.