Science Says Introverts Should Date Extroverts (And Vice-Versa)

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Dating your opposite personality type = relationship success!

A lot of people talk about the differences between introverts and extroverts, but what happens when two people with opposite personalities start dating? Are they able to balance each other out — or do their differences inevitably tear them apart? 

David Sack M.D., the CEO of Elements Behavioral Health explains to Psychology Today that of course a relationship between an introvert and extrovert can work out — it just takes a little extra effort!

Figuring out how to spend time together can be tricky since extroverts believe "the more the merrier" when it comes to socializing, while introverts tend to get overwhelmed by too many social situations. The reason for this has to do with the hardwiring of our brains.

A study found that extroverts' brains release more dopamine when responding to: food, sex, social interactions, and earning money. Introverts, on the other hand, don't get the same dopamine boost and therefore don't get a "reward" from such interactions.

So ... is it wise to date someone the complete opposite of you?

Yes. Yes, it is.

Dr. Sack insists that you shouldn't rule out someone with an opposite personality type for several reasons. The first being that everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum, so chances are the person isn't as different from you as you may initially believe; you're still going to be able to relate to each other on some level. Secondly, Dr. Sack says that personality differences can usually be smoothed out with effective communication.

Plus, there's nothing like having a yin to your yang! Balance, people — it's all about balance.


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