10 Tips For A Sturdy, Lasting Marriage (As Illustrated By CATS)

10 Tips For A Sturdy, Lasting Marriage As Illustrated By CATS

Let these cats lead the way to a PURR-fect love life.

Marriage is complicated, and different rules apply to different couples. Here at YourTango, we strive to give you the best advice concerning love and relationships. We also love cats. So here are 10 marriage tips, as illustrated by a bevy of adorable furry KITTENS:

1. Do something nice for your spouse — unexpectedly.

"Do a chore or errand that’s not usually your responsibility — not just once, but daily. Don’t keep score. And do it without expectation of acknowledgement, appreciation or reciprocity." - Maraya Loza Koxahn


2. Don’t stay in a relationship for the stuff.

"Sometimes the "stuff" of life keeps you in longer than you should be there. No one can tell you how happy you are, or how happy you should be. All I can tell you is that when you approach your 50s, you need to be exceedingly careful before you move on." -Catherine Behan


3. Don’t be needy.

"If you're too needy and dependent on a man you will be a slave to your feelings. It will keep you in chains of desperation and you will never be able to relax and be yourself with a man." -Virginia Clark


4. Stop wasting time with unrequited love.

"If you are pining over someone who is not returning your love, I urge you not to waste your time anymore. If you really desire a relationship, remember that it will not happen without two people having the same feelings at the same time. It is difficult but necessary to take a look at yourself know what is holding you back from finding love." -Marni Feuerman 


5. Be cautious of overly-nice guys.

"You think he's being open with you, yet something doesn't feel quite right. He talks about the future and says just what you want to hear; he wants marriage and kids. Naturally, you assume that since you two are dating, this future dream of his includes you. But does it?" -Virginia Clark


6. Love  and be loved  unconditionally.

"Putting yourself first starts with saying 'No' to unreasonable requests, especially when a loved one can do it for themselves. Stop letting yourself from being used and abused for the sake of love. No matter what the issue is, you have the power to say, 'No.' You have the right to ask for and expect reciprocity from love relationships. Putting yourself first is loving yourself unconditionally." -Sheri Brown


7. Avoid blow-outs.

"Share your concerns on the tough issue but keep your tone relaxed and collaborative and look for solutions that work for both of you. This final tip has a number of subtleties to keep in mind." -Dr. Susan Heitler


8. Don’t ignore your partner with technology.

"Virtual connections can't replace physical intimacy. When you receive a text or read an email, all you get is information. You don't receive smiles, hugs, laughter or touch. What fosters loving feelings with significant others usually involves physical contact — simple things like gazing lovingly at each other, holding hands, whispering sweet nothings. Eye-to-eye and skin-to-skin contact all turn on the love hormone oxytocin. This chemical in your brain enhances your feelings of affection and increases your sense of bonding with your partner. This is something you can't express over a text message." -Dr. Susan Heitler


9. If your partner is not your best firend, your relationship will not stand the test of time.

"Make no mistake about it: Loving someone is not enough. If your partner is not your best friend, your relationship will not stand the test of time. Your relationship can never be judged as a great success. There is no equivocation when it comes to this point. Best friends provide each other with total trust, loyalty, mutual respect, admiration, encouragement, support, care and much more." -Dr. Charles & Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz


10. Embrace your partner's imperfections.

"Whether you're single, dating, married or divorced, you don't need to find a brand new partner — or a perfect partner at all — to be happier in love today. All you need to do is look at your current love life "bright side up," from a more positive perspective." -Amy Spencer



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