The Reason Guys Think You're Interested In Them (When You're Not)

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A new study explains why guys are always picking up the wrong signal.

Thanks to society there are many ways that women are just set up to fail. When I walk down the street I have to ignore men who say hi to me. They may consider me as rude for it, but in a lot of cases if I even give so much as eye contact with them then they decide it’s OK to follow me for a couple of blocks or begin to say sexually inappropriate things.

Many men complain that women are overly sensitive to things like catcalling. They may not understand why women begin to put a wall up when a man decides to approach her. "The guy is just paying you a compliment! Why can't you just be nice?" Well, science is showing male brains evolved in a way to pick up the wrong signals from when a woman is nice to them.

The Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) discovered that men are programmed to seize every possible opportunity to reproduce. For them, it is all low-risk and high reward for them to try. Unlike women, who have high cost, if she thinks a man is interested in her.

The study also got feedback from women who said after acting friendly towards a man it was misinterpreted as sexual interest 3.5 times over the past year on average. After that happening so often it might be understandable for women to become more standoffish to new guys.

So this isn't very surprising news, but it kind of helps women have concrete proof that many men pretend that they expect nothing more from a woman if she decides to be nice to them. One thing that I can't help but wonder is what does this mean for platonic heterosexual friends?

Does this mean straight men will always be up for something more from their nice female counterparts just because their brain works that way? According to a previous study, the answer is yes.

A study had 88 pairs of platonic, opposite sex friends anonymously answer questions about whether they have romantic feelings for the other. Men were much more likely to be attracted to their female friends, and they were more likely to think their opposite-sex friend was attracted to them.

Well, all of this is pretty depressing. I guess as a woman, it might be time to be a lot more selective to even friendships with men. Perhaps in a couple hundred of years men's brains will evolve to be different? That's probably a long shot.


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