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Get Your Sexy On In The Bedroom By Doing These 3 Things [VIDEO]

These tips are sure to spice things up!


Even though it can be super embarrassing to admit, we've all most likely turned to porn or erotica to get in the mood for sex at least once. But for some reason, there's such a stigma placed on having to watch sexy videos or read erotic stories to get turned on — and there really shouldn't be!

The real issue is when this need starts to take over your marriage and that curiosity turns into an addiction. If you feel like you can't be intimate with your partner without having to rely on erotica, here's what you need to do.

Is it normal to be so dependent on sexy materials?

If there's one thing you should take away from this video, it's THIS: There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed about! We've all used erotic materials to get things going in bed, which pretty much makes it the norm. The real problem lies in the point where this dependency on porn to get aroused starts to take over other aspects of your life.

Here's the thing. Instead of worrying about what society thinks, you must focus on what works for you and your partner; after all, there's nothing sexier than working together to bring those sparks back into the bedroom. Don't just limit yourself to erotica.

Instead of relying on it on a daily basis, you can use other means to boost your sex drive. While trying to figure out ways to get in the mood aside can seem pretty hard at first, it IS possible.

In fact, according to Dr. Suzanne Olds, there are plenty of ways that you can "revive" your libido.

Yes, we're serious!

What are some surefire ways to rev up your libido?

Dr. Suzanne Olds' secret to getting turned on (on your own terms) definitely put things into perspective. At the end of the day, you need to remember that there's nothing wrong with wanting to spice things up in the bedrom. The short, arousing films over at AfterNineTonight are a great (and sexy) place to start!

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