There's a reason it hurts so damn bad.
We've all heard people dramatically toss around lines about being addicted to love and even read some quotes that make the correlation between love and drugs that some heartbroken fool made up. Usually we brush it off and write these people off as drama queens.
Here's the thing though, these love sick "fools" may actually be on to something. One major thing we've learned about heartache is that it doesn't discriminate. It doesn't matter who you are or how tough of a cookie you've always been, it just takes one person to warm their way into your heart and — boom — you, too, might find yourself suffering from a broken heart.
In the spirit of finding out why getting over that dreamboat (or douchebag) is just so damn hard, we did a little digging.
1. You Suffer Withdrawals
Love is a drug ... in a way. Many studies have found that a bad breakup can have similar effects that withdrawling from cocaine has.
All I know is this: I sure wouldn't want to feel the pain of an actual drug addict overcoming their addiction — sounds excruciatingly painful, in the worst way.
Bringing us to the next point ...
2. You Become Obsessed
Sometimes your heartache may lead to some obsessive behavior, almost as if you're craving a fix — so you get it with a little social media stalk sesh. Which, doesn't normally help the healing process in the long-run (no, not even if you see they're miserable without you).
3. Your Chances Of Depression Are Increased
It has been proven that stressful events that cause humilation (i.e. horrible breakups), increase the chances for depression — even more so, than an event like death.
4. Your Heart Breaks, Literally
No really! We're not being dramatic — doctors have found that 'Broken Heart Syndrome' is very real. This is when the loss of a loved one results in what closely resembles, a heart attack (and could even be misdiagnosed, as so). However it usualy only occurs under more extreme circumstances, such as the death of your love (not loss as in, "he left me for another woman").
5. You Lose Your Appetite
This often occurs because your body's cortisol levels rise, causing you to lose your appetite — a reaction to the level of stress the breakup may have caused you.
I must say, you really had my heart if you can get me to go cold turkey on the food — a rare commodity you are, indeed!
6. You Feel Physical Pain
For years I'd listen to love songs and wonder how people could be so dramatic, then I experienced it for the first time myself — I felt like I swallowed needles after I figured out my boyfriend and I were over. But then I thought I might be a little delusional, until this: New research found that during a breakup, the brain essentially triggers sensations that you usually feel in moments of actual physical pain.
It may prompt a number of physical effects, such as heart palpitations, shortness of breath, stomach pain, loss of sleep, and depression.
See, heartache is more literal than you ever imagined.
7. Your Blood Pressure Rises
A study found that being around people you have mixed feelings towards, can cause a certain level of stress—and in response, your blood pressure can increase.
You know the motto: too blessed, to be stressed? If not, it's time to adopt it. No amount of worry will bring him back—the only thing that tends to do that is you moving on. So, do your thing and don't let the stress get to you, girlfriend!
8. You Lose Hair
According to Dr. Bessam Farjo, medical director of the Institute of Trichologists, 'it's not uncommon for women to suffer hair loss after the stress of a relationship breakdown.'
I don't know about you ladies, but I'm not trying to go bald for balls (it's just not an exchange I'm willing to make)! When in doubt, screw them (not literally) and refer to the last item on this list.
9. You're Motivated You To Be A Better You
There's good news—finally. In a previous article we found that 35 percent of women say they feel motivated to exercise or diet, after a breakup; overall, 84 percent have found that this is a good opportunity to change something about themselves. Yep! Sounds about right. Although, I will admit that my intentions don't begin completely focused on self-improvement — it's more like an evil plot to make him regret dumping me on my ass. I will say that it makes me feel happier when I hit the gym after a bad breakup. You know, after I pick myself up out of the bed from days of sobbing (and then those sore muscles from a kick ass gym sesh).