Forget little black dresses, bright red lipstick and a perfectly executed cat eye. Nothing looks sexier on a woman than self-confidence. The ability to really know and embrace who you are goes a long way in both life and love. The heroine of Tawny Weber's newest Harlequin Blaze title in her military miniseries, A SEAL's Kiss, is just that. Sage Taylor is a true Harlequin Blaze leading lady and we're definitely taking notes on her vibrant self-confidence.
New York Times bestselling author Tawny Weber says, "I love creating characters like Sage because even when she doesn’t know exactly what she wants, this girl has absolutely no doubt that once she figures it out, she'll get it—as the sexy hero Aiden discovers."
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But how do you brave the digital fray without losing your most attractive feature? Approach online dating with a plan — and choose the platform that lets you shine.
We've highlighted seven popular and up-and-coming dating apps. See how you can use each to exude confidence right through the screen.
HowAboutWe bills itself as the "offline" dating site, since the goal of this service is for a couple to connect based on a shared interest — such as eating dumplings or listening to live jazz — and then to get out there and do said activity together. Users post date ideas, other users who dig the idea respond and either the magic happens or it does't. Pictures may be worth a thousand words, but when it comes to showcasing the areas you feel most confident about — like your commitment to volunteering or your PhD in art history — HAW is the site to let your great ideas, and not just your pretty face, shine.
2. Twine Canvas
Like HowAboutWe, this site aims to help you tell your story with more than just a cookie-cutter profile. Instead, users create "personality canvases" — collages of pictures that represent their interests and personalities. Matches are made, and profile photos are revealed, only when two people "like" each other’s canvas. This way, you get to lead with the qualities that you feel define who you are — and therefore feel most confident about — like your mastery of the violin, your military background or your ability to bake a tarte tatin (it’s a serious feat, people!).
You might be surprised to find hookup-friendly Tinder on the list, but as other sites have started figuring out, the app that’s growing at lightning speed is actually good for supporting users' self-confidence. The main reason? There's less investment. On most dating sites, you spend time and energy crafting a witty profile or a message that makes you stand out — only to be met with radio silence. On Tinder, you're only connected with a user once each of you has liked the other’s profile photo. So, from the get-go, you know there’s a mutual attraction. And if someone doesn't like you back, chances are you've "liked" so many photos in a day you won't even remember the crazy fools who passed on you.
The Grouper team obviously buys into the whole "strength in numbers" idea. On Grouper, you choose two friends to join you as wingmen/wingwomen on a date with three other "Groupers." The site matches groups based on age, education, interests and other info gleaned from users' Facebook profiles. Because it's not a one-on-one date, there’s not nearly as much pressure. Instead of focusing on whether or not your date was into you, you can focus on having fun with your new friends and being your magical, confident self. Keep reading...
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