Letting go of anger can mean letting go of pain.
After finding out that your husband cheated on you, it's hard to feel like you can ever forgive him. The worst part is not knowing how he could betray you, especially after everything that you guys have been through. It's hard figuring out what drives people to have an affair in the first place. But holding onto that pain won't do anything to help you; in fact, it will only weigh you down and stop you from healing. Even though it doesn't seem like it right this instant, it is possible for you to recover. It's all about taking it one day at a time.
Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do after infidelity, but it's important to open yourself up to healing emotionally. How exactly can you learn to do this? YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman tackles this common question and more with relationship experts Debi Berndt, John Gray, Tammy Nelson and LiYana Silver. To learn how to forgive with grace — and to discover the biggest issues with forgiveness that both men and women struggle with — you have to be willing to be open about your feelings. Talk to your spouse about how his betrayal deeply hurt you and ways that you can both heal together. Make sure to let him know that he's going to have to work to earn your trust again.