Picture your boyfriend on a night out with his buddies. They head to the neighborhood bar to watch the game over a few beers. It’s his guy time. Nothing out of the ordinary.
Then, a young woman slinks up next to him at the bar. She flashes him a smile and the two of them spark a fairly innocent conversation … but 'friendly' turns quickly into 'flirty' and they get a little too giggly over drinks. She leans in and murmurs in his ear, "Let's get out of here." Of course, his knee-jerk reaction is to say no. He is your boyfriend after all, and he says he's 'taken'.
"Oh, me too," she says, flashing a wedding ring on her finger. "So?" He pauses for a moment, before being lured in by her kisses and the two of them slip off into the night.
Your worst nightmare right? Well, a recent study confirms it as a possible reality: men love a cheating woman.
OkCupid conducted a top-secret study to discover that men actually prefer women who are looking to have an affair.
Here's how the experiment went down: Researchers collected 40 real profile pics —20 women and 20 men — and then shuffled them into four categorized groups: the Brazen Cheats, the Married Maybes, the Recently Taken and the Sincerely Singles. Two decoy profiles from each group were then planted into one of five cities deemed by the infamous cheater's online haven AshleyMadison.com as unfaithful hotspots. And there's no mistaking a decoy cheater's profile when you see it. One such profile reads: "My profile lists me as single but I'm not going to lie to you, I AM in a relationship right now. I'm here because I want to meet someone new but I don't want my current partner to know about it. There, I said it."
Over time, they tallied up the total number of messages that each group received and ... (surprise, surprise) the female Brazen Cheats were the most popular group. Within a week, the group received 336 messages with coy, flirty offers like "You are the most striking woman I have laid eyes on in years. Let me know if I can fill any holes in your relationship for you..." and "I am in a relationship but I'm getting really bored with it. I'd really be interested in meeting someone where we can just chill with no expectations and just have fun."
While these messages were mainly empathetic (if not a tad forward), cheating guys didn't get that same online love. Male decoy cheaters received 44 messages in a week, 36 of which were scathing insults or judgments like "I presume this is a joke. If not, then wow" and "wtf are you serious?"
The Allure Of A Taken Woman
As alarming as these results are, we have to wonder: are they all that surprising? Just this year, 33 percent of men admitted to committing affairs in their relationships. And I don't doubt that the idea of romancing a 'taken' woman is tempting for the guys. Think about it: she's already 'taken' so there's no pressure to marry her — and there's an easy cop out if you should get caught in your fling. All that sneaking around is enough to get your heart pumping. Based on this ever-growing list, why wouldn't a man want a woman who is already spoken for?
YourTango Expert and author of The Problem With Women ... Is Men, Charles Orlando says that the initial appeal of being party to a sordid affair with a taken woman is the eroticism. Men want what they can't have. They secretly lust after their best friend's girlfriend. Keep Reading ...
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