When you're in a long-term relationship, a hot night with your partner is probably made up of moves pulled from a go-to list of yeses and, if you're lucky, oh yeses. Why risk messing up the mood with potentially awkward antics? Because there's such a thing as feeling too comfortable. "Shaking things up a bit can add excitement and spontaneity," warns Ellen Barnard, a sex educator and owner of A Woman's Touch, a Madison, Wisconsin–based sexuality and education center. The key words there: "a bit."
Experts agree that you don't need to try (or buy) anything extreme to achieve a big boost in novelty and pleasure. Test one or more of these moves out tonight and see for yourself.
Engage In Afterplay
Done with the main event? Now's the perfect time to return to some foreplay favorites, says sex educator Emily Nagoski. "Because you're already aroused, you may find that certain moves can feel extra-intense," she explains. Not only that, but if you've always been curious but shy to try something new, like, say a type of toy, after intercourse can be a great time to engage because when you're already aroused, and may be less inhibited. Plus, there's no pressure on the trick to actually work. You're just having fun for fun's sake.
Open The Windows — But Close The Curtains
The feel of the breeze on your bare skin and the ever-so-slight possibility that the neighbors might hear your moans can be incredibly arousing, says Harlan Cohen, author of Getting Naked. Or, if you're feeling even more daring, instigate a makeout session in your backyard as it gets dark. Even though it's remote, the fear you could get caught produces an adrenaline rush that adds a layer of excitement and urgency to the encounter.
Scratch His Head
The scalp contains tons of nerve endings — that's why that mini-scalp massage at the salon always feels so good. Even though the touch is G-rated, the skin-on-skin contact can trigger a flow of bonding hormones like oxytocin that can make you both feel more connected, explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. And because the act isn't automatically linked to sex, it can pave the way for a long evening of back-and-forth foreplay before the main event, which often gets lost in long-term relationships.
Read the rest of the tips over at Prevention: 11 Sex Tips You'll Actually Try
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