10 Ways To Keep Intimacy Alive In Your Long-Distance Relationship

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In A Long-Distance Relationship? How To Keep Intimacy Alive
Are you part of a long-distance couple? Here's how to maintain closeness while living apart.

Intimacy is a key aspect of any healthy relationship or marriage. It is based on a deep knowledge of one another, which typically comes from spending time together. That's why being in a long-distance relationship or marriage brings on special challenges to both emotional and physical intimacy.

Without spending time together on a regular basis, we miss out on all the little details that help to define our partner. We don't know what radio station he listens to in the car, or if he's changed his morning routine. We might not hear about her new friend at work, or her favorite new television show. And while these details may seem unimportant, knowing them undoubtedly makes us feel closer to our partner, which builds intimacy.

Similarly, physical intimacy, the comfort and familiarity we get from being physically close to one another—whether it be holding hands, kissing, or shared sexual experiences—is super-important. Long-distance couples have very limited time together in which to develop a physically intimate relationship. Some long-distance couples are able to have frequent, long conversations, which help to overcome some of these challenges. In fact, some of these couples get to know each other quite well because of these lengthy conversations. Still, without spending the time together, intimacy can suffer.

Here are 10 tips for long-distance couples to maintain closeness despite living far apart:

1. Visit. Seeing each other is key, so regular visits are a necessity. But be sure stay at each other's homes instead of just taking vacation weekends together. Vacations are great, but they don't give us any insight into our partner's daily life. Intimacy develops from a deep sense of familiarity with your partner, and this familiarity starts at home.

2. Become a talker. The most important thing you can do to build intimacy while you're apart is talk. Talk about your day, and ask about your partner's. Talk about the details, however unimportant you think they may be.

3. Video chat daily. Even those with the busiest of schedules can make time for a quick video chat each day. Being able to see one another daily, even for five minutes, goes a long way toward developing intimacy. The consistent visual connections build familiarity and confidence in knowing one another. Keep reading...

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