Sure, you can turn up the heat in your relationship by forking over a handful of cash for an expensive couple's massage. Or you can take matters into your own hands — literally — and give your partner a sensual massage right in the comfort of your own home. After all, who knows your lover's pleasure points better than you?
Massages are great for circulation, the nervous system and, in general, easing stress. But that's not all a good rubdown can do, according to Massage Therapist Jeanetta Goddette. "Most of all, massage can make us feel loved," she says. "It enhances the intimate connection we share with our partner." Even novice masseurs can give a do-it-yourself rubdown a go; just follow these steps.
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DO: Create a calm, distraction-free environment. Keep your cell phones out of the room entirely and leave the television off. The focus should be on the massage, nothing else. Instead, opt for soft, calming music to set the mood.
DON'T: Set up on the bed. Massage surfaces should be firm but comfortable, so create a soft area on the floor for your partner to lie upon.
DO: Consider the temperature. Goddette recommends about 75 degrees. "You want it to be warm enough for your partner to be totally comfortable when uncovered," she advises. "The best way to know for sure is to ask if it is warm enough, and if not, turn up the heat until it is."
DON'T: Leave your jewelry on. Watches, rings, bracelets — remove them all to avoid skin-pinching snafus. And while you're at it, it might be a good time to trim your fingernails.
DO: Use oil. A little bit of lubrication goes a long way towards making a massage truly sensual. But avoid going overboard, warns Goddette: "You want your partner to feel your touch and the sensation of your skin and warmth against their skin, not just the sensation of oil dripping down their sides." When it comes to selecting the type of oil, Goddette recommends those specifically designed for massage, like Durex Massage & Play Soothing Touch. "Avoid using any petroleum-based oil or one with heavy perfumes that could potentially irritate sensitive areas," she warns. "I like to use oil that can be safely ingested, especially because kissing may be involved."
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DON'T: Pour that oil directly onto your partner’s skin. Cold shock, much? Instead, pour the oil into your hands and allow your own body warmth to bring it to the proper temperature before rubbing it into your partner’s back. Keep reading ...
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