Easy ways to make your first Passover seder together stress-free.
Passover is here again; a time to come together with family and remember the hardships of our Jewish ancestors over a special meal called a seder. A lot goes in to planning a seder and there is no one right way to go about it, especially when you're hosting as a duo.
Here's a helpful list of a few ways to make planning a seder as a couple a little easier on both of you.
1. Compile A List
Every family celebrates passover a little differently. Whether it's hiding the afikomen, the items you choose to include in your seder plate or the songs and stories you include, discussing it beforehand and making a list of the traditions most important to you will ease the transition from your families seders of the past to your own and help to create your own traditions with your loved one.
2. Plan Ahead
I can't stress how important this is. Seders are complicated and odds are you're going to have a lot of people over. Start preparing for your seder beforehand. Know who you're going to invite, who's definitely coming and decide on a menu. Start cooking the few things you can the night before and set your table a few hours before; you'll save yourself a lot of time and headache the day of.
If members of your family are coming from out of town, know where they're staying and how they're getting to your; there's going to be a lot of eating and drinking during your seder and it's important to keep everyone safe. If people are crashing at your place, discuss it with them beforehand. If they're going elsewhere, know who is driving them. Have a taxi number on hand, should they need a ride.
3. Mentally Prepare Yourself
As much as we love our families, they're a little crazy. Admit it! Prepare yourself for that one family member who makes off the cuff comments, the inevitable political arguments or questions about when you and your significant other are getting married and having kids. Keep in mind that it's just one night, and try to enjoy yourself and focus your attention on family members you are closest with.
An integral part of the story of Passover says that the Jewish people are to relax as the kings did so that other people will see that we too are kings and queens. Take their advice and chill out! Don't stress too much over having the perfect seder; you will be amongst family and friends, having fun and paying homage to our ancestors — and that's all that matters.
Follow these four simple steps and your passover seder will be stress-free and fun.
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