Some of us are just naturally shy and wait for the person across the bar to pursue us then we end up disappointed when they don't make a move. Although we've all heard the expression "Love comes when you stop looking for it", how much reliance should we actually put on this saying? Should you wait for love to find you or find it for yourself? Love consultants Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal join us to provide answers to these questions and more.

If you want to be less passive in relationships, you must have the courage and confidence to go after what you want. Being proactive in your love life is guranteed to bring you more dates. Tamsen says you should "Make love happen in your life. You don't have to sit there on a barstool waiting for a guy to approach you, it's okay to approach a guy." However, when approaching a guy you must know when the line is crossed into overly aggressive.

 

On the other hand, Matt Titus is here to remind you that being single isn't a bad thing.  Have fun with being single and remember you're in control of your love life.

For more tips on being proactive in your love life, watch the video above.

 

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