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Has the spark disappeared in your relationship? Unsure of how to bring back those "butterfly" feelings? Good news: Help is on the way!

In this video, counselor, therapist and YourTango Expert Sheryl Paul explains that it's very common for couples to experience this "after honeymoon" stage. "We think that love is a feeling and don't understand that the strong feelings we associate with love inevitably fade over time," Sheryl says. Some people jump from relationship to relationship and are "infatuation junkies" that seek the "love drug," but these feelings are normal in our culture.

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So, what should you do about your loss of feelings or love? Learn and remember that "[l]ove is action. Love is giving. Love is learning to compromise, and sometimes it means acting as if, holding his hand even if you're not feeling in love at that moment."

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