Why don't you ever take out the trash? When are we going to spend real time together? You said you were going to mow the lawn. Why can't you just put the dishes in the dishwasher? You spent HOW much on that? Are you listening to me? …
Sound familiar? This is called nagging, a verb Webster's Dictionary defines as "to irritate by constant scolding or urging." A recent YourTango survey reveals that more than half of respondents consider nagging to be a serious problem in their relationships.
One of the main problems with nagging, experts say, is that pleading/complaining/urging isn't effective and rarely gets "the nagger" what he/she really wants.
"Generally, if you're on the receiving end when someone is nagging, you feel like you're being controlled and asked to submit to someone else's plan for you," Life Coach Nicole Burley says. "You don't necessarily feel inspired to do that thing on your own."
Even worse is that nagging has serious repercussions for your relationship, with 60% of men and 40% of women admitting that it leads to less frequent and less satisfying sex. But how do you know if you're a nag—or simply asking your partner to help you do something in a reasonable manner? For the person who identifies as "the nagger" in the relationship, it can feel like there's no other option but to nag. After all, what is one supposed to do when he said he would mow the lawn, but it's still not done two days later?
Our relationship experts sounded in with nine signs you're nagging, plus advice on how to stop. Keep reading...
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