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Marriage: My Husband Thinks I'm Crazy


What to do when you and your husband never see things the same way.

Does your husband act strangely? When you call him out, what does he say? Does he accuse you of hearing things? Does he make you feel like you're losing your mind? If so, you're not alone.

In this video, author, therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Joe Kort explains that this common phenomenon is known as gaslighting, a term that derives from the 1944 film Gas Light starring Ingrid Bergman. The term refers to a form of psychological abuse whereby a perpetrator attempts to make his victim doubt her own memory or perception. "What you need to do," says Joe, "is to know what you saw and be hard [and] fast in what you know you heard."

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