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Are you sick of kissing frogs?
Are you unlucky in love? Are you eager to meet Prince Charming? If you've become overly cynical about dating, you might be wondering whether or not it's a smart idea to take a break from dating. Perhaps some time and distance will give you the perspective you need. Should I Stick To My List Of Must-Haves For Dating?
Dating coach, matchmaker and YourTango Expert Jasbina Ahluwalia agrees with you. In this video, she reaffirms that dating can be emotionally draining, and can take a great toll. If you do decide to take a break from the dating scene, use that time to do things that make you extremely happy, and feel at peace. She says, "Pursue passions that feed your soul. It could be reading, writing, sports, travel ... anything that really feeds your soul."
Hi I’m Jasbina Ahluwalia with Ask an Expert answering your love and relationship questions. Today’s question is: I feel like my frustration with the dating process is making me bitter. Should I take a break to clear my head or just push through, hoping to meet someone?
I hear your frustration. As a matchmaker and dating coach, I can assure you you’re not alone. Putting yourself out there again and again can be emotionally draining. It can really take a toll on you. That said, a positive attitude is crucial to the dating process. Feelings of frustration and bitterness can be more transparent to dates than you might realize and so I think it’s a good idea to take a break. Let’s make that break count by making it self-nurturing. Here’s a couple of ways to do that. One, pursue passions that feed your soul. Could be reading, writing, sports, travel, anything that really feeds your soul. Number two, consider adopting a gratitude practice. Whether it be on a daily basis recounting those experiences and people for which you’re most grateful for or journaling your thoughts in that way. And number three, surround yourself by family and friends who are in great romantic relationships and try to stay clear from people with negative views about relationships with the opposite sex. Savor your break from dating while at the same time not staying out of the dating world for too long. While dating can take us out of our comfort zone, the rewards of a happy and healthy relationship are certainly worth that.
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