Do you know *exactly* what kind of partner you're looking for?
Do you know exactly what kind of partner you're looking for? While it's almost always wise to know what you want, some experts insist that having a list of criteria for your future mate only sets you up for failure. After all, no one will ever meet every single standard ... or will they?
In this video, Psychotherapist, Author & YourTango Expert Jasbina Ahluwalia addresses whether having a list of must-haves is a good idea, or whether it's a recipe for dating disaster. Is Past Dating Experience Relevant?
Foremost, Jasbina wants you to know that this question arises fequently; it's a common concern among her matchmaking clients, so you shouldn't feel alone. Next, she says it's a great idea to hone in on what you want in a life partner. Sometimes, a list is the perfect way to organize your thoughts and gain insights into your own needs, expectations and desires. However, problems arise when these lists are too specific.
"Make sure it," i.e. your list, "expands rather than limits your options," Jasbina explains. To do that, she suggests taking three critical steps. Check out the video to learn Jasbina's suggestions and determine whether your list of must-haves is on the right track!