For years I was a big believer in "keeping secrets" in a relationship. They weren't "secrets" as much as having privacy. I had all sorts of writings that I didn't give my man to peruse. When the digital era came along, I maintained our privacy. Not once did I check his text messages or his email (even though I had his password). Then I found out my fiancé was living a secret life as a gay man. Suddenly I was conflicted about keeping secrets and how much privacy couples should have with each other.
But Dan Ariely, author of The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty, says that some secrets are best taken to the grave. He says that if you are telling your partner the truth merely to "to assuage your guilt, offload your problems, or hurt [him or her]", then it's better to lie or keep silent.
You have to use your own judgement when it comes to what to spill and what to bottle up. But here are 5 guidelines...
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Written by Kiri Blakeley for The Stir.