It seems that Kevin Bacon wasn't just the cool kid at his high school in Footloose because he's Kevin Bacon, rather he was cool because the man can MOVE.
The German scientists who discovered this fact (and let's be honest, the Germans know how to dance) asked 53 women to watch two videos at the same time. The first video featured what's considered a "good" dancer, while the other featured an "Elaine Benes"-style dancer. (Refresh your memory here. She was B-A-D.)
Scientists tracked the women's eye movements, and found that the ladies ogled the men with fancy foot work and didn't really pay attention to the guys without the right moves. After watching the videos, the ladies shared what they thought about each dancer. What did they decide? The guys who shook up the dance floor were "attractive" and "masculine." The same could not be said for the other group.
I mean, do you really think Elizabeth Bennet would have fallen for Mr. Darcy if he couldn't woo her on the dance floor? Back then, dancing was essential in the courting process! It goes to show that if you can at least move without doing the white man's overbite, then there's at least some hope for you and your gender as a whole.
Making an effort DOES get you some points though.
Although for some there is no point in even trying, as they have been born with two left feet. It should be noted that if you at least go out there and make an attempt, you're already more attractive than the killjoy in the corner of the room refusing to partake.
Sometimes making an *ss out of yourself is JUST as charming, if not more so, as the perks of being a wallflower.
It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see him when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? He should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.
You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life—he insists on wearing his favorite, holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons—but you like him, plain and simple.
If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together—different opinions about religion, money or something else—you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
Sometimes it's that easy. You feel like he understands some essential part of you that you can't explain or articulate. It's a warm, comfortable feeling—and one you should have with the person you marry.